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LEMon

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7020 on: February 12, 2013, 04:07:19 PM »
I guess I can understand the ". . . when she was alive" thing because even though the fact that a loved one is deceased may be obvious to the speaker, it's not always immediately memorable or obvious to everyone else.  I would have to stop and think a minute to remember which of my best friends' grandparents are still alive, for example - even when the deaths were fairly recent.  "My grandmother loved going to musicals" could imply she's dead, or she's now in a nursing home and can't go anymore, or she has dementia, or she was so upset when "Cats" closed that she couldn't bring herself to ever attend a musical again.  The ". . . when she was alive" cues the listener in to asking follow-up questions like "What was her favorite?" instead of anything like "What does she do for fun now?" or "Does she hope to be in one someday?"   :P
Thank you for explaining this.  I had been trying to think why I felt the "... when she was alive" wording was helpful, and this explains it well.  I'm one of those oblivious folks who would ask, "what she likes to do now?" and would be very embarrassed to hear she was deceased.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7021 on: February 12, 2013, 04:47:49 PM »
Had a good one yesterday.

I was in the card store and there was a woman engaged in a discussion with a clerk about tea roses, of all things.  She was convinced, and vehement about it, that the flowers are called tea roses because of their orange - brown color. 

I didn't get involved but I was always under the impression that the flowers were named because their fragrance was reminiscent of tea.  They come in several colors, as I understand it.

I was always under the impression that they were called tea roses because they were smaller and more delicate . . . you know, the perfect centerpiece on your tea table at tea time when you used the fancy, delicate china and served the small petits fours and finger sandwiches.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7022 on: February 12, 2013, 05:12:54 PM »
Jpcher-- me, too; like tea lights.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7023 on: February 12, 2013, 05:26:48 PM »
Had a good one yesterday.

I was in the card store and there was a woman engaged in a discussion with a clerk about tea roses, of all things.  She was convinced, and vehement about it, that the flowers are called tea roses because of their orange - brown color. 

I didn't get involved but I was always under the impression that the flowers were named because their fragrance was reminiscent of tea.  They come in several colors, as I understand it.

I was always under the impression that they were called tea roses because they were smaller and more delicate . . . you know, the perfect centerpiece on your tea table at tea time when you used the fancy, delicate china and served the small petits fours and finger sandwiches.

 :-\

As far as I know "tea roses" smell like roses; Tea roses refers to miniature roses.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7024 on: February 12, 2013, 05:36:08 PM »
Re: parking
I live in a city that you have to have resident parking stickers. If you don't you can park at a metered spot or one of the parking garages. There is no free parking in town. If I have out of town visitors I can buy $5 guest passes up to 7 at a time. The town makes a ton of money from parking. Stickers are $20 for the year but there is never enough parking. I've regularly driven around 15-30 min looking for a spot. Love my city but parking drives me nuts!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7025 on: February 12, 2013, 06:23:08 PM »
Every day I didn't get a ticket for anything felt like a little blessing. I got ticketed twice in one day when someone stole my front license plate (because that's something you can obviously fix in an hour). Parking tickets seem to fund the entire city. Which is why it felt like the biggest win ever to actually get our ridiculous ticket repealed.
Next time you get a ticket for something that you can't fix immediately, leave the original ticket in place under your wiper.  They shouldn't ticket you again if there's one on there already. (Says the lady who avoids cities whenever humanly possible.)
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7026 on: February 12, 2013, 06:26:17 PM »
Re: parking
I live in a city that you have to have resident parking stickers. If you don't you can park at a metered spot or one of the parking garages. There is no free parking in town. If I have out of town visitors I can buy $5 guest passes up to 7 at a time. The town makes a ton of money from parking. Stickers are $20 for the year but there is never enough parking. I've regularly driven around 15-30 min looking for a spot. Love my city but parking drives me nuts!
I wish we could do that in Waikiki.  I hear people complain that there is so little free parking.  I say, "I have to pay for my parking space and I live here!"  A covered parking stall in a secured building is worth $15,000 to $20,000.

I don't know why people think that their car registration entitles them to park free anywhere.  I wish we had resident parking stickers, but even then, I don't think there should be any free parking in Waikiki; Space is too dear.  If you don't want to pay for parking, take a bus, bike, walk, take a taxi.  There are lots of options.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7027 on: February 12, 2013, 06:32:47 PM »
One of the silver linings of the big black clouds in my life is the fact that in this city you get to park for free anywhere (except private lots) with a handicap parking placard.  It definitely makes parking downtown and at the beach a far more pleasant experience.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7028 on: February 12, 2013, 06:55:45 PM »
A woman in my office needed to ask a question and have it answered by everyone in the department – kind of like a survey. She emailed about half and for the rest went desk to desk individually and asked, because she said, “I don’t have everyone’s email address.” Um. K. There is a department email address. Emails are sent several times a day to and from the department address. It’s right there. On top of that, if you type anyone’s first or last name into the address line in Outlook it will give you a suggested list of names, right down to if you type the name in it will populate the email address. Maybe she had other reasons that she didn’t want to share. I honestly hope so. If she has been here several months and doesn’t know how to work Outlook we have a big problem. I really hope it was a (dumb) excuse and she really just wanted to walk around and talk to people or something.

Another person refused to even be involved with an email for a guy at one of our satellite offices because back in high school he was the first person with whom she ever did a particular Scrabble act. I know this not because I am a vicious gossip, but because she went around and made sure we all knew that was exactly why she didn’t want to be in any way involved … I think she thought maybe we would understand? I am flummoxed, especially since she seemed kind of embarrassed, not that she was trying to show off by telling us all this.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7029 on: February 12, 2013, 07:57:21 PM »
My nephew was born 3 months after my daughter, and they are now both 12 y/o. We saw nephew this weekend, and I commented to my husband later on the significant height difference (my daughter is nearly 8 inches taller than he is). My husband rolled his eyes and informed me, "well, nephew is only in 6th grade, not 7th like daughter. Of course, he isn't as tall." It took him awhile to grasp the concept that one year apart in school does not mean one year apart in age.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7030 on: February 12, 2013, 08:04:38 PM »
DH is the oldest grandchild, and only a few years younger than his Aunt C. After DH and I married 15 years ago, Aunt C was divorced and remarried a few years later. DH and I had DS a year after getting married, and DS is 14. Aunt C's husband Uncle B has a son who is 16 (Cousin A). DS has been at least six inches taller than his cousin since DS was 10. Many members of the family think DS is older than cousin A, especially now that DS is over 6' tall.

They get really confused over which one is driving.  8)
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7031 on: February 13, 2013, 07:12:10 AM »
On top of that, if you type anyone’s first or last name into the address line in Outlook it will give you a suggested list of names, right down to if you type the name in it will populate the email address.

And it's not like most companies have a standard address architecture like john Doe would be j.doe@company.com and so on, if you know their name you know their address..

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7032 on: February 13, 2013, 09:23:08 AM »
My nephew was born 3 months after my daughter, and they are now both 12 y/o. We saw nephew this weekend, and I commented to my husband later on the significant height difference (my daughter is nearly 8 inches taller than he is). My husband rolled his eyes and informed me, "well, nephew is only in 6th grade, not 7th like daughter. Of course, he isn't as tall." It took him awhile to grasp the concept that one year apart in school does not mean one year apart in age.

Your husband»s comment aside, your nephew still has a chance. One of my friends in 6/7th grade was a guy, also about three months younger than me. At that point, I was a few inches taller than him. Now that we’re adults I’m still that towering 5'3" ;) , and he’s 6'6". Certainly makes my neck hurt, but not my brain so much any more.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7033 on: February 13, 2013, 09:28:36 AM »
My nephew was born 3 months after my daughter, and they are now both 12 y/o. We saw nephew this weekend, and I commented to my husband later on the significant height difference (my daughter is nearly 8 inches taller than he is). My husband rolled his eyes and informed me, "well, nephew is only in 6th grade, not 7th like daughter. Of course, he isn't as tall." It took him awhile to grasp the concept that one year apart in school does not mean one year apart in age.

Your husband»s comment aside, your nephew still has a chance. One of my friends in 6/7th grade was a guy, also about three months younger than me. At that point, I was a few inches taller than him. Now that we’re adults I’m still that towering 5'3" ;) , and he’s 6'6". Certainly makes my neck hurt, but not my brain so much any more.

If you look at a group of 7-8-9 graders, you'll notice that in general the girls are taller than the boys. Boys get their growth later, most starting about 10th grade. My brother and my high school boyfriend didn't get their last growth spurt until they were Freshmen in college.

These are generalizations, the most common appearances. Remember, there is 364 days between the oldest 8th grader and youngest 8th grader, but only one day between the oldest 8th grader and the youngest 9th grader. A lot can happen in a year!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7034 on: February 13, 2013, 09:52:49 AM »
My nephew was born 3 months after my daughter, and they are now both 12 y/o. We saw nephew this weekend, and I commented to my husband later on the significant height difference (my daughter is nearly 8 inches taller than he is). My husband rolled his eyes and informed me, "well, nephew is only in 6th grade, not 7th like daughter. Of course, he isn't as tall." It took him awhile to grasp the concept that one year apart in school does not mean one year apart in age.

Your husband»s comment aside, your nephew still has a chance. One of my friends in 6/7th grade was a guy, also about three months younger than me. At that point, I was a few inches taller than him. Now that we’re adults I’m still that towering 5'3" ;) , and he’s 6'6". Certainly makes my neck hurt, but not my brain so much any more.

If you look at a group of 7-8-9 graders, you'll notice that in general the girls are taller than the boys. Boys get their growth later, most starting about 10th grade. My brother and my high school boyfriend didn't get their last growth spurt until they were Freshmen in college.

These are generalizations, the most common appearances. Remember, there is 364 days between the oldest 8th grader and youngest 8th grader, but only one day between the oldest 8th grader and the youngest 9th grader. A lot can happen in a year!

This is so true.  I don't remember it being as drastic when I was growing up, maybe because I saw my male classmates every day. But with my DD, it's shocking at times to see the cute boy who was a little shorter than DD in 8th grade tower over her now.  And DS was short for his age through middle school but went from 5'2" at end of 8th grade to 6 foot in a year and a half. 


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