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Elfmama

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7050 on: February 13, 2013, 06:53:31 PM »
One of my master teachers always said that Grade 8 is the hardest year on teens - half of them have turned into almost-adults, and the other half still look like little kids, and tend to get treated that way. Growth spurts are so unpredictable.
Grandson #2 got his growth spurt early, and is one of the largest kids in the 8th grade.  He is having a lot of trouble in school because of it.  He says half the boys want to fight him, to prove that they aren't cowards, and the other half want him to beat someone up for them.

It doesn't help that for the past 2 years, Grandson #2 has been significantly taller than Grandson #1, who is older by 7 months.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7051 on: February 13, 2013, 07:54:15 PM »
I went to high school with a guy who was not only very short (5'3" or thereabouts) but also very young looking, all the way through school.  He looked like a 12 year old wandering through graduation.  At the 10 year reunion, no one recognized him...he had grown about a foot and was fully adult looking.  I don't know if he had a medical issue that was addressed, or what.

On to the brain hurt...I have an employee who is very good at her job, but tends to martyrdom.  Any teleconference with her starts with a heavy sigh...'Susie's on the call', as if she'd been dragged in at gunpoint.  She works in an office several states away, so her annual review is done by phone.  I scheduled her review 2 weeks ago, and we had it Monday.  As soon as she got on the call, she says, almost weeping, 'I have no phone privacy here!'

I completely agree that she should have privacy during this conversation.  Here's the deal: she has the ability to work from home any time she wants.  She lives alone, so she'd have all the privacy she could want.  She knew about hte meeting 2 weeks in advance.  How hard would it have been for her to just work from home that day?  She doesn't need any special permission or clearance, all she has to do is let me know.  Or if she couldn't work from home that day, ask to reschedule the meeting.  I don't think I'm that much of an ogre that she'd be afraid of making a reasonable request.  No, she'd rather be all put upon and tortured. 

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7052 on: February 13, 2013, 08:31:58 PM »
...   she says, almost weeping, 'I have no phone privacy here!'

Perhaps she mentioned that because she  was hoping that since the evaluation was going to be more or less 'public' that maybe you would go easy on her and perhaps less critical because you didn't want her to be embarrassed or feel humiliated in front of coworkers?  ???

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7053 on: February 13, 2013, 08:36:22 PM »
Piratelvr1121, I wonder what the school district would do if you did have twins, with the first born at 23:58 on August 31st and the second born at 12:05 on September 1st?  Would the August 31st baby start school a year earlier than the September 1st baby?

OW!  Ow! You made my brain hurt!
This made me curious about how common it is to have twins with different birthdays and just did a Google search and happened upon an article that said there were 3 sets of twins born this pass New Years in separate years in the US.

Most likely they would both start school a year later, but I think the parents would have the option to decide, based on the maturity level of the kids.


That's what I would expect too.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7054 on: February 13, 2013, 08:52:48 PM »
...   she says, almost weeping, 'I have no phone privacy here!'

Perhaps she mentioned that because she  was hoping that since the evaluation was going to be more or less 'public' that maybe you would go easy on her and perhaps less critical because you didn't want her to be embarrassed or feel humiliated in front of coworkers?  ???

Well, no one would have been able to hear my end of the conversation unless she put the phone on speaker, which would have been really silly on her part!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7055 on: February 13, 2013, 08:56:01 PM »
Piratelvr1121, I wonder what the school district would do if you did have twins, with the first born at 23:58 on August 31st and the second born at 12:05 on September 1st?  Would the August 31st baby start school a year earlier than the September 1st baby?

OW!  Ow! You made my brain hurt!
This made me curious about how common it is to have twins with different birthdays and just did a Google search and happened upon an article that said there were 3 sets of twins born this pass New Years in separate years in the US.

Most likely they would both start school a year later, but I think the parents would have the option to decide, based on the maturity level of the kids.


That's what I would expect too.

The Nestling (my sister) started school when she was 4, then promptly turned 5 but three days later.  One of the Eagle's closest friends did the exact same thing.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7056 on: February 13, 2013, 09:04:49 PM »
My husband and I met in 3rd grade (don't ask me how we met except that we were in the same class - neither of us remembers our first meeting).  I COULD LOOK RIGHT OVER HIS HEAD.  I was big for my age, he was on the small side.

However, once he hit puberty, he figured out how to grow.  I topped out at 5'7", he kept going to just under 6 feet. 
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7057 on: February 13, 2013, 09:27:59 PM »
My husband and I met in 3rd grade (don't ask me how we met except that we were in the same class - neither of us remembers our first meeting).  I COULD LOOK RIGHT OVER HIS HEAD.  I was big for my age, he was on the small side.

However, once he hit puberty, he figured out how to grow.  I topped out at 5'7", he kept going to just under 6 feet.

I was 5'3" in 5th grade and towered over everyone even through 6th grade.  I topped at 5'7" at the end of 6th grade/beginning of 7th and I haven't grown taller since.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7058 on: February 13, 2013, 09:29:30 PM »
Piratelvr1121, I wonder what the school district would do if you did have twins, with the first born at 23:58 on August 31st and the second born at 12:05 on September 1st?  Would the August 31st baby start school a year earlier than the September 1st baby?

OW!  Ow! You made my brain hurt!
This made me curious about how common it is to have twins with different birthdays and just did a Google search and happened upon an article that said there were 3 sets of twins born this pass New Years in separate years in the US.

Most likely they would both start school a year later, but I think the parents would have the option to decide, based on the maturity level of the kids.


That's what I would expect too.

The Nestling (my sister) started school when she was 4, then promptly turned 5 but three days later.  One of the Eagle's closest friends did the exact same thing.
In my experience, most school systems have a method to "test in" for kids who are close to the cutoff (say 2 weeks or a month or so).  However, in my area it's also becoming common to hold kids out an additional year, especially late summer babies.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7059 on: February 13, 2013, 09:47:52 PM »
Actually, the twins would need to have birthdays of Sept. 1 and Sept. 2 to be one year apart in school.
"Must be age 5 by September 1st" is the common rule.  September 2nd is a rotten b-day to have for some!

My b-day is 9-1.  made it with a few hours to spare!   DH and I both graduated HS at 17, as will our DD.  I stared college at 17, but only for a few days. 

Minor brain confusion at the pharmacy-
"pick-up or drop off?"
it is a refill, may or may not have been called in by doc.
"So, which is it?"
I dunno.
Had a new insurance card so we got all the right info and all is well, regardless.  :)
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7060 on: February 13, 2013, 09:49:42 PM »
That is so true it can be shocking.  At a family gathering we saw 'Timmy' at 14.  He was, to be honest, a short, round child.  Two years later, when we next saw him, he had turned into a tall, well-built young man.  If we saw him on the street, we wouldn't have recognized him. 

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WOW what a change!  And WOW what a hunk!  :-)

Keep in the mind they gave him false buck teeth and padding to make his ears stick out.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7061 on: February 13, 2013, 09:53:11 PM »
A note on height and brain hurt.

I used to work in a doctor's office and one of my duties involved bringing faxes to the appropriate folders which sometimes meant just pulling the files off the shelves and putting them in a cubby for the appropriate doctor but sometimes if the patient had been recently seen I'd have to hunt them down wherever the doc preferred them to be so he could write notes.

Well one day I happened to be looking through the files on the nurses station when she brought a woman back and measured her height.  Which was 5'2 3/4". (which is also my height, so my ears perked up at that)

The woman says "Boy, I've shrunk, I used to be 5'7!"  :o  Good grief, if it's possible to shrink that much I'm in trouble! LOL!  Here I was expecting to end up maybe just under 5' when I'm older.  But man, 5 inches?
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7062 on: February 13, 2013, 09:59:24 PM »
My last year of high school in 1987, I was 5'11 3/4". I am now 5'10".

I blame DS.  >:D
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7063 on: February 13, 2013, 10:45:07 PM »

We used to peel the protective paper off of the sticker and before we applied it, cut a piece of Baggie the size of the sticker then about 1/2 " narrower, put that on the sticker leaving about 1/4 " on the side edges to stick it on the window. Then we removed the thing every year and only had those small strips to remove, if we felt like it. Some years they were clear so we put the new sticker right on top of the old edges.

Well, aren't you clever! I have to stick an association sticker to our window each year and now it will be a snap, thank you.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7064 on: February 13, 2013, 10:59:29 PM »
That is so true it can be shocking.  At a family gathering we saw 'Timmy' at 14.  He was, to be honest, a short, round child.  Two years later, when we next saw him, he had turned into a tall, well-built young man.  If we saw him on the street, we wouldn't have recognized him. 

Matthew Lewis:



Also Matthew Lewis:


WOW what a change!  And WOW what a hunk!  :-)
Reminds me of Jerry O'Connell.


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