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Jocelyn

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7185 on: February 26, 2013, 06:13:18 PM »

And after I picked my jaw up off the ground (who tells a 19 year old girl her father is going to hell?) 

My niece was engaged to a young man who was killed in an accident. My sister was trying to explain this to her 2 year old grandson, and told him that the young man was now in Heaven with Jesus. My sister's MIL interrupted to tell her not to say that, after all, they didn't know if the young man had been a REAL Christian.
As if it would be useful to tell a 2 year old that someone he loved could possibly be in hell because he wasn't the right sort of believer?

gramma dishes

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« Reply #7186 on: February 26, 2013, 06:19:23 PM »


My niece was engaged to a young man who was killed in an accident. My sister was trying to explain this to her 2 year old grandson, and told him that the young man was now in Heaven with Jesus. My sister's MIL interrupted to tell her not to say that, after all, they didn't know if the young man had been a REAL Christian.
As if it would be useful to tell a 2 year old that someone he loved could possibly be in hell because he wasn't the right sort of believer?

What was your sister's MIL thinking?  Good grief!!  The child is two.

Not only that, but in my opinion a "real" Christian would never even think such a thing, much less let such words fall out of her mouth!

Piratelvr1121

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7187 on: February 26, 2013, 06:31:50 PM »
DH's paternal grandmother was very ill and I believe also was dealing with some depression.  Both which led to her taking her life.  I never knew her so I have no idea what she was like, just that she'd had cancer and was in a lot of pain.  DH I think was a teen at the time and at her funeral mass the priest said in front of her loved ones assembled that she would not be going to heaven because of what she did.

Being raised Catholic I know how the church felt about suicide but c'mon, you don't say that kind of thing at a person's funeral in front of those who are already mourning them. 
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Thipu1

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7188 on: February 26, 2013, 06:41:01 PM »
I would respond to this sort of thing with something a Catholic nun said in religion class when I was 15. 

'Because God is all just, we know there is a Hell. 
Because God is all merciful, we don't know if there's anybody in it'. 

Lauds

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7189 on: February 26, 2013, 08:01:42 PM »

Our school still had some crime around.  Can't tell you how many bomb threats we had at our school one fall.   Almost every time we got evacuated to the middle school's library but hey I didn't mind, I loved to read and it was a guaranteed hour at least that I got to sit in a comfy little cranny somewhere and read. 

Then one day, on my birthday at that, on a drizzly gray November day, the kid posted bomb threat warnings on the front doors of both the high school and the middle school, likely hoping that we'd get sent home. Nope, we just stood out a safe distance from the school waiting for them to do a search and let us back in.  I was rather annoyed at the kid who had done it cause at that rate we all knew it was a kid who attended that school.

This reminds me of something that still hurts my brain to this day.

I was still at high school when the September 11 attacks happened. The high school I went to is in the New Zealand capital and within easy walking distance of my school was the US embassy, the British high commission, the Fijian high commission (and it was only a year or so after the George Speight coup), parliament, the high court, the court of appeal, the ministry of defence, the ministry of education, the crown law office, and probably a number of other government buildings and embassies that I can't remember. The brain hurty part? The day after the attacks, someone called in a bomb threat to the ministry of youth affairs.

I just don't get why you would pick youth affairs as your target with all those other buildings around. Especially at such a time.

Jaelle

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7190 on: February 26, 2013, 08:21:08 PM »
Well the Monsignor told me my Grandfather was burning in hell after he died. I was three. Had nightmares of Pappa burning for weeks. Once Mom figured out why, she called the rectory every time I woke her up screaming in terror and woke up the monsignor.

*snip*

It's probably not eHell-appropriate, but I just want to say that I like your mom's style.
“She was already learning that if you ignore the rules people will, half the time, quietly rewrite them so that they don't apply to you.”
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KenveeB

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7191 on: February 26, 2013, 09:10:18 PM »
Well the Monsignor told me my Grandfather was burning in hell after he died. I was three. Had nightmares of Pappa burning for weeks. Once Mom figured out why, she called the rectory every time I woke her up screaming in terror and woke up the monsignor.

*snip*

It's probably not eHell-appropriate, but I just want to say that I like your mom's style.

I don't know, don't we frequently advocate allowing people to experience the natural consequences of their actions?

Yvaine

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7192 on: February 26, 2013, 10:31:24 PM »

Our school still had some crime around.  Can't tell you how many bomb threats we had at our school one fall.   Almost every time we got evacuated to the middle school's library but hey I didn't mind, I loved to read and it was a guaranteed hour at least that I got to sit in a comfy little cranny somewhere and read. 

Then one day, on my birthday at that, on a drizzly gray November day, the kid posted bomb threat warnings on the front doors of both the high school and the middle school, likely hoping that we'd get sent home. Nope, we just stood out a safe distance from the school waiting for them to do a search and let us back in.  I was rather annoyed at the kid who had done it cause at that rate we all knew it was a kid who attended that school.

This reminds me of something that still hurts my brain to this day.

I was still at high school when the September 11 attacks happened. The high school I went to is in the New Zealand capital and within easy walking distance of my school was the US embassy, the British high commission, the Fijian high commission (and it was only a year or so after the George Speight coup), parliament, the high court, the court of appeal, the ministry of defence, the ministry of education, the crown law office, and probably a number of other government buildings and embassies that I can't remember. The brain hurty part? The day after the attacks, someone called in a bomb threat to the ministry of youth affairs.

I just don't get why you would pick youth affairs as your target with all those other buildings around. Especially at such a time.

Probably it was someone connected with youth affairs who had something to gain from, say, work ceasing there for a day. Or a disgruntled employee. I went to high school with a guy who turned out to be calling in bomb threats to the school from a pay phone at the school to get out of class. It wouldn't make much sense as a target for "regular" terrorists--but for pranksters or disgruntled individuals, maybe.

EmmaJ.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7193 on: February 27, 2013, 07:46:05 AM »
I would respond to this sort of thing with something a Catholic nun said in religion class when I was 15. 

'Because God is all just, we know there is a Hell. 
Because God is all merciful, we don't know if there's anybody in it'.

I absolutely love this.

Carotte

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« Reply #7194 on: February 27, 2013, 05:00:08 PM »
I must have broken my SO's brain yesterday. For the first time he really asked me questions and tried to understand how my brain 'works', I have dysorthography (not sure if it exist in english - close to dyslexia but with grammar and orthography), and he's from the grammar police. So the fact that I cannot, for the life of me, put a concept that I could learn to heart (the words, not the meaning, I don't get it) and use it at the right place is just boggling for him.
My brain takes the written world as a big bag of confusion if I try to take part in it. I really wish he could 'get it' because it has caused me enough pain during my schooling* that I really wish someone would just accept it for what it is.
I can't blame him for not really understanding, it's like asking someone not on the spectrum to imagine what it's like to suffer from autism.


*That's what prompted the conversation, turns out, hearing (said or heavily implied)  day in and day out, from 6 to 19y/old that you must be stupid, not making any effort, good for nothing, will leave traces.

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« Reply #7195 on: February 27, 2013, 09:26:37 PM »
I had one with a classmate today via email.

CM: mbbored, can I borrow your statistics textbook?
Me: Sure! Are you going to be at the seminar tomorrow? I can bring it to you then.
CM: dep. fac? no fac? pref off, use copy.
Me: Excuse me? Did you mean to respond with that?
CM: What?
Me: I didn't understand your email.
CM: What didn't you understand?
Me: Any of it.
CM: I asked to borrow a textbook.
Me: And I said yes. Then I asked you if you'd be at seminar so I could hand it off to you.
CM: And I said, it depends on whether or not the faculty will be there. I prefer to meet you at your office, where maybe I could use your copier.
Me: I did not get any of that.
CM: You should really study shorthand.

Yeah, shorthand was the problem there.

Nikko-chan

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7196 on: February 27, 2013, 09:35:35 PM »
I had one with a classmate today via email.

CM: mbbored, can I borrow your statistics textbook?
Me: Sure! Are you going to be at the seminar tomorrow? I can bring it to you then.
CM: dep. fac? no fac? pref off, use copy.
Me: Excuse me? Did you mean to respond with that?
CM: What?
Me: I didn't understand your email.
CM: What didn't you understand?
Me: Any of it.
CM: I asked to borrow a textbook.
Me: And I said yes. Then I asked you if you'd be at seminar so I could hand it off to you.
CM: And I said, it depends on whether or not the faculty will be there. I prefer to meet you at your office, where maybe I could use your copier.
Me: I did not get any of that.
CM: You should really study shorthand.

Yeah, shorthand was the problem there.

I got a headache just from reading that... oy vey

Piratelvr1121

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7197 on: February 27, 2013, 09:48:07 PM »
Yeah, once she explained I was able to go back and understand what she meant by the shorthand. 
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.  You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7198 on: February 27, 2013, 09:52:18 PM »
I had one with a classmate today via email.

CM: mbbored, can I borrow your statistics textbook?
Me: Sure! Are you going to be at the seminar tomorrow? I can bring it to you then.
CM: dep. fac? no fac? pref off, use copy.
Me: Excuse me? Did you mean to respond with that?
CM: What?
Me: I didn't understand your email.
CM: What didn't you understand?
Me: Any of it.
CM: I asked to borrow a textbook.
Me: And I said yes. Then I asked you if you'd be at seminar so I could hand it off to you.
CM: And I said, it depends on whether or not the faculty will be there. I prefer to meet you at your office, where maybe I could use your copier.
Me: I did not get any of that.
CM: You should really study shorthand.

Yeah, shorthand was the problem there.
That looks like the type of shorthand I would use while taking notes-something that makes perfect sense to me, but not to anyone else! Or me, if I didn't go back and rewrite my notes soon enough, for that matter...

PeterM

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7199 on: February 27, 2013, 10:07:40 PM »
CM: You should really study shorthand.

And you should really get your own stinkin' textbook.



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