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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7260 on: March 03, 2013, 11:29:41 AM »
I was originally going to put this in the SS thread, but I think the person featured herein isn't really SS, just ... totally clueless.  My brain really did hurt after witnessing this.

I was driving down a very busy road yesterday.  There are a series of four stoplights in a row.  One light leads to a mall and a Target (so very busy on a Saturday afternoon) and the other three lead to various highways (also very busy on a Saturday afternoon).  Traffic is always backed up in this area on the weekends, and cars frequently are still in the intersection after the light has changed.  Usually they just continue driving through and all is fine.  Except my not quite SS.  Who stayed in the intersection after the light changed.

They tried to drive forward after a bit, but were blocked by cars who had a green light and were going straight.  So they reversed a bit to be out of the way of those cars, only to find themselves in the way of cars who had a green light and were going straight in the other direction.  The car then tried to drive forward a bit (why, I don't know, since it hadn't worked before) and found itself in the way of both directions of cars who were trying to turn left.  The car finally reversed enough to be out of the way.  By this point, it was a green light for us again, and we were waiting for that car to move, since it now had a green light.  It didn't though.  Someone finally honked at it after a bit, and we found out that whoever was driving that car had actually put it in park, apparently not expecting anyone behind him to have to go either.   ??? :o ??? :o 

It didn't stop there though!  I ended up about two cars behind this particular car, which I was watching closely to see what else would happen.  That car almost didn't brake in time for a line of cars stopped at the next light, and had to be honked at again to continue moving when the green light came!  Thankfully, it got over into a left turn lane and I was able to keep going, so I didn't have to deal with it anymore. 

I still, a day later, wonder what on earth was going on, and who was driving, that they would be so idiotic! 


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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7261 on: March 03, 2013, 11:36:46 AM »
It's called "gridlock" and happens often. No one ever comes out a winner, makes a right decision, or stays calm. I understand the utter confussion and near panic of that poor driver, and your annoyance with him.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7262 on: March 03, 2013, 03:35:33 PM »
I had a driver like that in front of me a few months ago in an area with multiple red lights in a row.  We were pretty much the only cars on the road so it wasn't as dramatic or dangerous, but still annoying. We had to stop at every red light, as is very common along this gods-forsaken stretch of road. When the light would turn green, the guy would just sit there. I could see through his back window well enough to see that he wasn't fiddling with the radio or talking on a phone or whatever. He seemed to be staring straight ahead and just ignoring the fact that the light had turned green. So I tapped my horn, he jumped a little and then drove forward. To the next light, where the entire procedure repeated itself.

This happened at least three or four times within a maybe five minute period. My working hypothesis is that the driver was a goldfish in human form, and every time the car stopped he'd forget what he was doing and think, "Well, I guess I live here now!" until my horn made him look around and realize, "Oh my goodness, I'm in a car!" Then he'd drive to the next light, stop, and think "I must live here now!"

It was not my quickest commute home.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7263 on: March 03, 2013, 04:58:05 PM »
Peter, you made me laugh out loud. Goldfish! Hahahahha!

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7264 on: March 03, 2013, 07:43:03 PM »
It is really sad that the thought of the driver being a goldfish is just as likely an explanation as any for the sheer stupidity of that driving...  I always figure it's either somebody really old who ought not to be ON the road any longer, who panics and freezes up.  OR, it's a new teen, who needs more instruction on how to avoid such things.

The thing about gridlock that always annoys the snot out of me is when I sit back behind the crosswalk, because I KNOW I can't clear the intersection before the light changes, and some fool honks at me to GO.  Where I've lived in California, there are some healthy fines for blocking the intersection, so while I may get caught every so often, I will never deliberately enter when I'm not pretty sure I'll can leave on the other side within THAT cycle of the lights.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7265 on: March 04, 2013, 02:56:28 AM »
Norway is populated with a whole bunch of "I must live here now" goldfish. I blame it on traffic lights still being somewhat of a novelty anywhere outside the 5 largest cities.  ::)
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7266 on: March 04, 2013, 07:11:20 AM »
My brother is 19 and in the military. He's always been a bit of a loose canon, and my parents had gotten into several fights with him about underage drinking, staying out past curfew, etc. when he was in high school. Me? Nothing. I was the good kid. Now, he comes home and they don't even attempt to tell him what to do and he comes and goes as he pleases. Yet they think that they can tell the responsible 22-year-old with her own car and income to come home at a certain hour, or to not drink, or to do or not do this and that. Really?  ???

I think my Mom is related somehow to your parents. My Mom got 2 really good kids - bro and I didn't cause trouble, were excellent students, didn't party hard, etc. So she never had to deal with teenage rebellion.

During the summer after I graduated with my bachelor's and was heading off to grad school in the fall, I bought my first car. I'm 22 years old, and I'm 1.5 weeks away from leaving for school. A high school friend called one day and invited me to a party at her house on the upcoming weekend. I'm in city P and she's in city C, about 3 hours between them. I told her that I didn't think I could make it.

After I hung up, Mom asks what Jenny wanted and I told her. Mom then seizes her one and only opportunity to deal with "teenage rebellion!" and sternly tells me that you. are. not. going. I look at her funny, cock my eyebrow up a la Spock, and inform her that she really doesn't have a way of preventing a 22 year old adult with her own car from traveling, especially since I could leave from Jenny's and just head on up to my apartment that I have rented in grad school town.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7267 on: March 04, 2013, 08:55:23 AM »
That reminds me of when my mother moved from Liverpool to London in the 50's.  When she went back home to visit for a while, she went out with her friends and got home around 1:00 a.m.  There was her mother at the doorway, utterly furious, saying "WHAT TIME DO YOU CALL THIS?"  Mum said "You have no idea what I get up in London, Mum.  Face it, I've grown up."

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« Reply #7268 on: March 04, 2013, 09:09:18 AM »
My brother is 19 and in the military. He's always been a bit of a loose canon, and my parents had gotten into several fights with him about underage drinking, staying out past curfew, etc. when he was in high school. Me? Nothing. I was the good kid. Now, he comes home and they don't even attempt to tell him what to do and he comes and goes as he pleases. Yet they think that they can tell the responsible 22-year-old with her own car and income to come home at a certain hour, or to not drink, or to do or not do this and that. Really?  ???

I think my Mom is related somehow to your parents. My Mom got 2 really good kids - bro and I didn't cause trouble, were excellent students, didn't party hard, etc. So she never had to deal with teenage rebellion.

During the summer after I graduated with my bachelor's and was heading off to grad school in the fall, I bought my first car. I'm 22 years old, and I'm 1.5 weeks away from leaving for school. A high school friend called one day and invited me to a party at her house on the upcoming weekend. I'm in city P and she's in city C, about 3 hours between them. I told her that I didn't think I could make it.

After I hung up, Mom asks what Jenny wanted and I told her. Mom then seizes her one and only opportunity to deal with "teenage rebellion!" and sternly tells me that you. are. not. going. I look at her funny, cock my eyebrow up a la Spock, and inform her that she really doesn't have a way of preventing a 22 year old adult with her own car from traveling, especially since I could leave from Jenny's and just head on up to my apartment that I have rented in grad school town.


Did she not hear you say "I don't think I can make it?"
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7269 on: March 04, 2013, 09:20:04 AM »
My brother is 19 and in the military. He's always been a bit of a loose canon, and my parents had gotten into several fights with him about underage drinking, staying out past curfew, etc. when he was in high school. Me? Nothing. I was the good kid. Now, he comes home and they don't even attempt to tell him what to do and he comes and goes as he pleases. Yet they think that they can tell the responsible 22-year-old with her own car and income to come home at a certain hour, or to not drink, or to do or not do this and that. Really?  ???

I think my Mom is related somehow to your parents. My Mom got 2 really good kids - bro and I didn't cause trouble, were excellent students, didn't party hard, etc. So she never had to deal with teenage rebellion.

During the summer after I graduated with my bachelor's and was heading off to grad school in the fall, I bought my first car. I'm 22 years old, and I'm 1.5 weeks away from leaving for school. A high school friend called one day and invited me to a party at her house on the upcoming weekend. I'm in city P and she's in city C, about 3 hours between them. I told her that I didn't think I could make it.

After I hung up, Mom asks what Jenny wanted and I told her. Mom then seizes her one and only opportunity to deal with "teenage rebellion!" and sternly tells me that you. are. not. going. I look at her funny, cock my eyebrow up a la Spock, and inform her that she really doesn't have a way of preventing a 22 year old adult with her own car from traveling, especially since I could leave from Jenny's and just head on up to my apartment that I have rented in grad school town.


Did she not hear you say "I don't think I can make it?"

In my experiences, sometimes parents seem to gloss over what the child actually said when their brain latches on to a potentially Teachable Moment (or an I donít want you to do it thing).

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7270 on: March 04, 2013, 09:33:42 AM »
My brother is 19 and in the military. He's always been a bit of a loose canon, and my parents had gotten into several fights with him about underage drinking, staying out past curfew, etc. when he was in high school. Me? Nothing. I was the good kid. Now, he comes home and they don't even attempt to tell him what to do and he comes and goes as he pleases. Yet they think that they can tell the responsible 22-year-old with her own car and income to come home at a certain hour, or to not drink, or to do or not do this and that. Really?  ???

I think my Mom is related somehow to your parents. My Mom got 2 really good kids - bro and I didn't cause trouble, were excellent students, didn't party hard, etc. So she never had to deal with teenage rebellion.

During the summer after I graduated with my bachelor's and was heading off to grad school in the fall, I bought my first car. I'm 22 years old, and I'm 1.5 weeks away from leaving for school. A high school friend called one day and invited me to a party at her house on the upcoming weekend. I'm in city P and she's in city C, about 3 hours between them. I told her that I didn't think I could make it.

After I hung up, Mom asks what Jenny wanted and I told her. Mom then seizes her one and only opportunity to deal with "teenage rebellion!" and sternly tells me that you. are. not. going. I look at her funny, cock my eyebrow up a la Spock, and inform her that she really doesn't have a way of preventing a 22 year old adult with her own car from traveling, especially since I could leave from Jenny's and just head on up to my apartment that I have rented in grad school town.


Did she not hear you say "I don't think I can make it?"

In my experiences, sometimes parents seem to gloss over what the child actually said when their brain latches on to a potentially Teachable Moment (or an I donít want you to do it thing).

She didn't hear it - she answered the phone, handed it to me, and said "It's Jenny" with a look on her face like "Why is she calling here?" Because Jenny hadn't lived in our hometown since she graduated from college a year ahead of me, got married, and moved to city C. Mom didn't stick around for the rest of the conversation, just was curious afterwards about what Jenny wanted. Then she reared up to Give.Me.What.For.Young.Lady! I kind of prefaced my reply with "I wasn't going to go anyway but you know ..." and she then had her righteousness balloon deflated  :D

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7271 on: March 04, 2013, 09:37:23 AM »
That reminds me of something my mother sometimes does, which amuses me and hurts my brain a little. I will say that I'll have to some important thing the very next thing, like send a job application or call a doctor or something. We'll talk about it and she starts talking about how important it is to do it soon, like the position will be filled or my leg will fall off or something and I keep saying that I will do it, the very next thing on my list, it's important, etc. I keep thinking that didn't this discussion start with me saying how important the thing was and how I was going to do it soon, I don't really need convincing. 

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7272 on: March 04, 2013, 09:42:00 AM »
My best friend does that.  I'll mention that there's something I really need to do and she'll start talking about why it's so important that I do it and why I need to do it, etc. etc. I've more than once said in an amused tone "Well yeah, I know that, which is why I said I need to do that, so why are we discussing this so much?"
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7273 on: March 04, 2013, 09:47:46 AM »
One of my Mom's tactics for dealing with situations her brain can't handle is to abruptly hang up the phone if the brain-hurtiness of her arguments is shown to her. We now live in the same area, but she's west of our city in a small farming community, and I'm southeast in a suburb. It's about a 45 minute drive between them, depending on traffic, so we usually communicate by phone calls.

So there will be an issue where she gets all hot and bothered and comes down on me during the phone call about it. I point out the flaws in her arguments, and she may or may not yell at me first, but she will slam down the phone in response. My favorite was the time when I forgot to tell her that we (DH, DS, and I) were going on a vacation. The next phone call I said BTW, we went on vacation and started to tell her about it. I was then treated to a tirade about how I never told them I was going on vacation, and what if something had happened to me, and I was hurt, and they wouldn't know where I was. I pointed out that if I was hurt and they called to tell you, chances are very good that they would also tell you where I am. The phone then slammed down.

Never mind the brain hurty that an adult woman with a DH and 11 year old son would not have the rescue people calling her parents to come get her.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7274 on: March 04, 2013, 10:51:40 AM »
That reminds me of something my mother sometimes does, which amuses me and hurts my brain a little. I will say that I'll have to some important thing the very next thing, like send a job application or call a doctor or something. We'll talk about it and she starts talking about how important it is to do it soon, like the position will be filled or my leg will fall off or something and I keep saying that I will do it, the very next thing on my list, it's important, etc. I keep thinking that didn't this discussion start with me saying how important the thing was and how I was going to do it soon, I don't really need convincing.

My mother does this too.

Me: "Oh yeah, I have to do Thing tomorrow, I'd better write it down, do you have a pen?"

Mom: "IF YOU DON'T DO THING YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO BE SUCCESSFUL AS AN ADULT BLARGH!"

Me: "I-I've got this."

Mom: "BUT YOU SHOULD DO THING RIGHT NOW!"

Me: "....this doesn't affect you at all. Like...zero. There are literally no ways in which this could possibly have any bearing on your life ever."

Mom: "DON'T GET SMART WITH ME YOU NEED TO DO THING RIGHT NOOOW."


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