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Piratelvr1121

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7275 on: March 06, 2013, 10:34:30 AM »
That reminds me of when my mother moved from Liverpool to London in the 50's.  When she went back home to visit for a while, she went out with her friends and got home around 1:00 a.m.  There was her mother at the doorway, utterly furious, saying "WHAT TIME DO YOU CALL THIS?"  Mum said "You have no idea what I get up in London, Mum.  Face it, I've grown up."

I hurt my own brain by doing this. I know it's ridiculous, but I worry about people getting home when they've left my company, even though I realise that they spend the rest of their time travelling around without my knowledge or concern.

Stupid brain!

My mother is exactly the same. If I've visited my parents, I will always call to let her know once I've arrived safely back home. She knows perfectly well that it is irrational. She says she thinks it is because she knows for sure that one of us is on the road *right then that minute* coupled with a little bit of 'they were visiting me so their safety my responsibility'.

But she was always very good at letting us do stuff despite being worried. (I travelled to France by myself when I was 17, to stay with a pen pal. I remember my parents being encouraging and supportive. I must have been about 25 when the trip came up in conversation and my mum mentioned that she hadn't slept for 2 nights when I went because she was so anxious about me out there travelling through foreign places all alone..

I'm like that too.  I have a hard time sleeping unless I know that my traveling loved ones are home safe or got to their destination safely.  When I admitted to a friend that I was waiting to hear from her to let her know she'd gotten home safely, she said "Aww, my mom used to do that even when I was your age and living on my own!" So now she texts me whenever she's arrived to a destination or home.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7276 on: March 06, 2013, 10:50:27 AM »
My father-in-law is a very smart man. He did a lot of the work on his house himself, and that is good, except that it will never pass inspection for sale and MIL is constantly talking about selling that house. While they were gone over the weekend, the 32 year old hot water heater had a major catastrophe and flooded the rear wing of the house. FIL is replacing the water heater, but trying to salvage the 32 year old carpet and padding.

It makes my brain hurt because they bought decent carpet back in 1981, off-white carpet, that has lasted through many children and a grandchild. The carpet will have to be replaced before they can sell the house, but they are trying to save 2000 sq ft of carpet, which sat in water for at least two days.

Harvest gold carpeting, circa mid-1960's.  By the 1980's, it had worn spots and some stains that steam cleaners were helpless against.  My mother insisted that the carpeting was still good because they bought the best, and it was expensive carpeting.  The brain-hurting part:  she put a large piece of scrap shag carpeting on top to protect the old carpeting.    ::)

After my mother passed away in the 1990's, I kept the old carpeting just long enough to protect the hardwood floor while the kitchen was remodeled.  It did make a good drop cloth when the dining and living rooms were repainted.
My friend finally convinced his parents to replace the old-fashioned, worn brown shag carpeting in their livingroom, as well as the 70's wallpaper and curtains. He went to their house for the big "surprise reveal" to find the room looking exactly the same. Yup, they replaced everything...with the exact same stuff. I didn't even know you could still find brown shag carpeting.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7277 on: March 06, 2013, 10:53:15 AM »
My father-in-law is a very smart man. He did a lot of the work on his house himself, and that is good, except that it will never pass inspection for sale and MIL is constantly talking about selling that house. While they were gone over the weekend, the 32 year old hot water heater had a major catastrophe and flooded the rear wing of the house. FIL is replacing the water heater, but trying to salvage the 32 year old carpet and padding.

It makes my brain hurt because they bought decent carpet back in 1981, off-white carpet, that has lasted through many children and a grandchild. The carpet will have to be replaced before they can sell the house, but they are trying to save 2000 sq ft of carpet, which sat in water for at least two days.

Harvest gold carpeting, circa mid-1960's.  By the 1980's, it had worn spots and some stains that steam cleaners were helpless against.  My mother insisted that the carpeting was still good because they bought the best, and it was expensive carpeting.  The brain-hurting part:  she put a large piece of scrap shag carpeting on top to protect the old carpeting.    ::)

After my mother passed away in the 1990's, I kept the old carpeting just long enough to protect the hardwood floor while the kitchen was remodeled.  It did make a good drop cloth when the dining and living rooms were repainted.

MIL is a furniture hound. There can be no wall space without a piece of furniture in front of it. However, we are such slobs  ::) that all furniture (even particleboard) must have a sheet or some fabric draped over it to "protect" it. It is only MIL and FIL living there. I haven't been over in a month. DH has only been over a few times, when they needed his help! And the carpet? They had renters in DH's room when he was in the Army and living in Germany until after DS was born. I am not certain that the carpet was pristine in 2004 when we stayed with them for a few months.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7278 on: March 06, 2013, 11:26:27 AM »
My father-in-law is a very smart man. He did a lot of the work on his house himself, and that is good, except that it will never pass inspection for sale and MIL is constantly talking about selling that house. While they were gone over the weekend, the 32 year old hot water heater had a major catastrophe and flooded the rear wing of the house. FIL is replacing the water heater, but trying to salvage the 32 year old carpet and padding.

It makes my brain hurt because they bought decent carpet back in 1981, off-white carpet, that has lasted through many children and a grandchild. The carpet will have to be replaced before they can sell the house, but they are trying to save 2000 sq ft of carpet, which sat in water for at least two days.

Harvest gold carpeting, circa mid-1960's.  By the 1980's, it had worn spots and some stains that steam cleaners were helpless against.  My mother insisted that the carpeting was still good because they bought the best, and it was expensive carpeting.  The brain-hurting part:  she put a large piece of scrap shag carpeting on top to protect the old carpeting.    ::)

After my mother passed away in the 1990's, I kept the old carpeting just long enough to protect the hardwood floor while the kitchen was remodeled.  It did make a good drop cloth when the dining and living rooms were repainted.
My friend finally convinced his parents to replace the old-fashioned, worn brown shag carpeting in their livingroom, as well as the 70's wallpaper and curtains. He went to their house for the big "surprise reveal" to find the room looking exactly the same. Yup, they replaced everything...with the exact same stuff. I didn't even know you could still find brown shag carpeting.
Shag carpeting was shown in high-end home shows last year around here. I was aghast.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7279 on: March 06, 2013, 11:44:44 AM »
Shag carpeting was shown in high-end home shows last year around here. I was aghast.

My brain hurt when the stuff came out in the 70s that I remember. I was only 25 but even then knew it was ugly, messy, and couldn't be kept clean.

We are getting carpeting for the main part of the house and are going burber. I want wood, but Lucas wants carpeting, so we are going to compromise.

My brain hurts at bathroom and kitchen carpeting, too. NO! Just no, no, no! At least we agree there.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7280 on: March 06, 2013, 01:04:05 PM »
A friend and I were talking about law school and I told her that I wasn't sure if I actually wanted to do something that involved being in court all the time.

Friend: "But...you're going to law school."

Me: "Right, but not all lawyers appear in court every day."

Friend: "But...what else would you do?"

Me: "Research, writing, loads of stuff."

Friend: "But...you're in law school."

Me: "Right."

Friend: "I think if you want to be a lawyer you have to get used to appearing in court."

Me: *facepalm*

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« Reply #7281 on: March 06, 2013, 01:13:46 PM »
Friend: "I think if you want to be a lawyer you have to get used to appearing in court."
I work for the government (don't worry, I'm here to help >:D) and we have attorneys who provide legal services for our branch.  The one we have now is a really nice guy.  He has always worked in public service.  He's about my age (mid-50s) and he said he hopes he has one case go to court before he retires.  He would like to appear in court at least once in his career as an attorney. :-\
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« Reply #7282 on: March 06, 2013, 01:19:08 PM »
Friend: "I think if you want to be a lawyer you have to get used to appearing in court."
I work for the government (don't worry, I'm here to help >:D) and we have attorneys who provide legal services for our branch.  The one we have now is a really nice guy.  He has always worked in public service.  He's about my age (mid-50s) and he said he hopes he has one case go to court before he retires.  He would like to appear in court at least once in his career as an attorney. :-\

Even a "litigation" attorney won't necessarily appear in court that much, depending on what kind of law they practice. I remember when I was a baby prosecutor -- I'd been there just a few months and tried 20-something jury trials at least. One day while I was doing docket, they were setting up for a civil jury trial. One of the attorneys had been a lawyer for over 20 years, and he was sweating bullets because it was his first jury trial!

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« Reply #7283 on: March 06, 2013, 01:33:25 PM »
A place I worked was entirely about litigation - yet most of the lawyers had only been in a trial a few times over their entire career.  A lot of litigation is just motion practice now.  You might appear before a judge, but the who examination that you see on tv is not something everyone gets or has to do even if you are interested in litigation.

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« Reply #7284 on: March 06, 2013, 02:08:04 PM »
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MIL is a furniture hound. There can be no wall space without a piece of furniture in front of it. However, we are such slobs   that all furniture (even particleboard) must have a sheet or some fabric draped over it to "protect" it.

Hahahahaha! I loved this. It reminded me of my mother's sister, my aunt, who always seemed so glamorous to me. Mary had been a stewardess (this was in the days of bright and glowing sexism) with American Airlines, then had married an older man and had three children. We would occasionally go and visit them. The house was nicer than ours and the living room particularly pretty. The way it stayed that way was because she covered everything plastic. Lampshades, sofas, chairs. Maybe Joan Crawford was an idol? (They did most of their socializing in the kitchen/family room, I believe.) The room was "for company." I remember asking my mom after one visit, "So what are we? Chopped liver?" Mom, if I remember correctly, kind of shrugged. She wasn't indifferent to my question, but probably uncertain how to answer it.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7285 on: March 06, 2013, 02:14:10 PM »
A place I worked was entirely about litigation - yet most of the lawyers had only been in a trial a few times over their entire career.  A lot of litigation is just motion practice now.  You might appear before a judge, but the who examination that you see on tv is not something everyone gets or has to do even if you are interested in litigation.

That reminds me of Tom Cruise's character in A Few Good Men.  The joke was he'd never seen the inside of a courtroom until he got that case because every previous case was settled out of court. 
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7286 on: March 06, 2013, 02:24:17 PM »
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MIL is a furniture hound. There can be no wall space without a piece of furniture in front of it. However, we are such slobs   that all furniture (even particleboard) must have a sheet or some fabric draped over it to "protect" it.

Hahahahaha! I loved this. It reminded me of my mother's sister, my aunt, who always seemed so glamorous to me. Mary had been a stewardess (this was in the days of bright and glowing sexism) with American Airlines, then had married an older man and had three children. We would occasionally go and visit them. The house was nicer than ours and the living room particularly pretty. The way it stayed that way was because she covered everything plastic. Lampshades, sofas, chairs. Maybe Joan Crawford was an idol? (They did most of their socializing in the kitchen/family room, I believe.) The room was "for company." I remember asking my mom after one visit, "So what are we? Chopped liver?" Mom, if I remember correctly, kind of shrugged. She wasn't indifferent to my question, but probably uncertain how to answer it.

DH has a friend who had an "off-limits" room in the house. It was only to be used by his mother and the company she invited over. The carpet showed footprints so his mother would know. Showroom quality everything in that room.

I believe a home should be lived in, but I do have to remind DS to take care around furnishings on occasion.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7287 on: March 06, 2013, 02:57:09 PM »
ladyknight1 wrote:

"My father-in-law is a very smart man. He did a lot of the work on his house himself, and that is good, except that it will never pass inspection for sale and MIL is constantly talking about selling that house. While they were gone over the weekend, the 32 year old hot water heater had a major catastrophe and flooded the rear wing of the house. FIL is replacing the water heater, but trying to salvage the 32 year old carpet and padding."

That part of this that hurts my brain is that they own a house that's large enough to have 2000 square feet of carpeting on the bottom floor of one wing but it's got 32 year old carpets.  I'm guessing that your MIL wants to sell it so she doesn't have to continue staffing it.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7288 on: March 06, 2013, 03:14:47 PM »
My DH was trying to explain a quiz where you have clues to try and figure out the answer to an unknown question.   

*snip*

I still don't know what he is talking about and he thinks I'm just being completely obtuse.

My guess - the 'official answer' is the unknown question.  The other is just a clue.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7289 on: March 06, 2013, 04:33:54 PM »
Syntax brain hurt.

The phrase "Up to $50 or more" always makes my brain twitch. You can have something up to $50, or you can have something $50 or more, but please do not say that it is "up to $50 or more".

There is a local shop that always has a CD sale rack with a sign saying "From under $10". I often wonder if they realise that that description includes every single number.

I get that. What they are trying to say is that this rack has some CDs in it that are as cheap as (probably) $9.99 (under $10), but also some which are more than $10. Yes, that encompasses all possible prices but I think the emphasis here is on how low they go (under $10) which is to say (in their estimation and for the sake of advertising) incredibly cheap!

In other words, the sign is saying, "Look in this rack! there are some CDs in here that are so cheap, they are less than $10! Be aware, though, they're not all that cheap, just some of them."

Yes, thank you, I did understand what they were trying to say.  My point was that they are communicating it in a very sloppy way indeed.
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