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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7650 on: March 16, 2013, 12:41:45 PM »

Unfortunately he was flying from LA to Oakland, and could not tell Immigration here how he managed without a passport or boarding pass.  This was before 9/11 though.

I have gone to get on a plane from LA to Auckland, and had the sky cap query why we need international departures.  To the NZ ear there is a distinct difference between Auckland and Oakland but perhaps you need a kiwi accent to pull it off.

He must have had a passport since he had already flown from the UK to LA - as for the boarding pass, if you are in transit, in the past when people didn't go into the body of the airport, I can see the staff not noticing that the boarding pass was only for the Heathrow/LA leg and not for the whole trip (you only get one pass and have to re-present it on re-boarding).  If it's in the right format and shows the correct starting airport (Heathrow), the attendants are trying to board several hundred people and it probably slipped past.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7651 on: March 16, 2013, 01:38:38 PM »
If a person is sorrowful about a loss, they may not be ready to see it as anything but a loss, and this could come off as 'Cheer up! It's not so bad!'
When someone who has already experienced a similar loss says something like this, maybe it will hurt one's brain less if you consider that they are telling you "there is a light at the end of the tunnel" instead of "cheer up, it's not so bad."  If they have gone through something similar, they know it is bad, they just want to you to know if can get better.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7652 on: March 16, 2013, 02:16:59 PM »
He lived in LA, and his flighht was from LA to Oakland.  so how he got onto thatmflight without  passport and the correct boarding pass was a mystery.  The airline was fined heavily by NZ Authorities for this. 

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7653 on: March 16, 2013, 09:43:35 PM »
I remember watching a program on how states got their shapes and they said that Maryland, Delaware and PA got their borders for religious reasons.   Maryland was a Catholic state, or at least mostly Catholic.  Pennsylvania was full of the Amish/Pennsylvania-Dutch and Delaware had Quakers.  That's about all I remember though, as it's been a while since we saw that episode.



Ouch. You made my brain hurt with this!

Pennsylvania was originally a parcel of land given to William Penn, who was a Quaker. He allowed Amish and Mennonite settlers to move in as well as Quakers, and he established a treaty with the Indian tribes of the Delaware Valley which sits on the borders of Delaware, Maryland, Pennsylvania, and New Jersey. He wanted access to the coast.

I had to look the state lines up - my religion classes were a VERY long time ago, and I didn't recall Delaware (the state) featured in any of them. I was starting to wonder if the teacher had missed something...

Well I'm willing to admit that either 1) I remembered it incorrectly or 2) the show got it wrong.  Which is possible, I think it's on the History Channel which isn't all it used to be.

If they were trying to drum up some excitement for the topic "Religious groups were wary of each other and stayed on their own land" comes across as much more titillating than "Everyone was friendly and they put the state line where it was convenient." :P

I think you were remembering incorrectly. I watched that show, and they were very clear that the main reason the eastern states got their funny shapes were for easier access to the ocean, so they could have a port. In a time before planes, trains, and automobiles, states needed a port to ship goods back and forth. Hence the reason most of them have a piece of the coast, and get larger as they go inland.

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7654 on: March 17, 2013, 05:37:01 AM »
He lived in LA, and his flighht was from LA to Oakland.  so how he got onto thatmflight without  passport and the correct boarding pass was a mystery.  The airline was fined heavily by NZ Authorities for this.

According to the article he was on his way back from a European vacation and had already travelled from London.  I accept that the press don't always get that sort of thing right, though, in which case like you say, how he managed it without a passport or some sort of Air New Zealand boarding pass is very worrying.

http://articles.latimes.com/1985-04-11/local/me-11793_1_auckland
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7655 on: March 18, 2013, 11:50:52 AM »
I remember watching a program on how states got their shapes and they said that Maryland, Delaware and PA got their borders for religious reasons.   Maryland was a Catholic state, or at least mostly Catholic.  Pennsylvania was full of the Amish/Pennsylvania-Dutch and Delaware had Quakers.  That's about all I remember though, as it's been a while since we saw that episode.



Ouch. You made my brain hurt with this!

Pennsylvania was originally a parcel of land given to William Penn, who was a Quaker. He allowed Amish and Mennonite settlers to move in as well as Quakers, and he established a treaty with the Indian tribes of the Delaware Valley which sits on the borders of Delaware, Maryland, Pennsylvania, and New Jersey. He wanted access to the coast.

I had to look the state lines up - my religion classes were a VERY long time ago, and I didn't recall Delaware (the state) featured in any of them. I was starting to wonder if the teacher had missed something...

Well I'm willing to admit that either 1) I remembered it incorrectly or 2) the show got it wrong.  Which is possible, I think it's on the History Channel which isn't all it used to be.

If they were trying to drum up some excitement for the topic "Religious groups were wary of each other and stayed on their own land" comes across as much more titillating than "Everyone was friendly and they put the state line where it was convenient." :P

I think you were remembering incorrectly. I watched that show, and they were very clear that the main reason the eastern states got their funny shapes were for easier access to the ocean, so they could have a port. In a time before planes, trains, and automobiles, states needed a port to ship goods back and forth. Hence the reason most of them have a piece of the coast, and get larger as they go inland.
I saw that same series and I thought that majority of the state lines in the eastern US were determined by natural boundaries like rivers and mountains. Then when the states in the midwest and west were created, and there were fewer natural "lines" to follow they just sort of made them rectangular-ish like No. and So. Dakota, Nebraska, Kansas, Wyoming, Utah, Colorado, New Mexico, Oregon, Washington.
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7656 on: March 18, 2013, 01:10:48 PM »
And yes, he's very divorced now (apparently it was pretty ugly, go figure).
I'm shocked! How could she let a prize like him get away? >:D

Oh, I think I worked with the same guy!

The real brain hurty part of it was that he got married halfway through the year I worked with him.  So he knew he couldn't stand living with the woman, he knew he didn't want to get married, and he just did it anyway and acted like a victim for it happening and badmouthed her everywhere.  It was uncomfortable.  He claimed she had "roped him into it" by getting pregnant.  He had two other children by different women so it's not like he hadn't practiced walking away before.

The really brain-hurty part was when his marriage was on the skids and he was playing the victim, he was scoring with new women (also co-workers) who saw him as a poor, put-upon, lost soul who needed saving.

One night as he left with the new girlfriend (he had left his wife right before she gave birth) I had the sudden urge to yell, "Hold the condom up to the light FIRST" after them.  But I really did resist (and I'm not just lying about that because I'm on ehell.)

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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7657 on: March 18, 2013, 02:51:52 PM »
"Hold the condom up to the light FIRST" after them.  But I really did resist (and I'm not just lying about that because I'm on ehell.)
I have almost no experience with condoms, but wouldn't it be safer to fill it with some air and put it under water to see if bubbles escape?  That's the way I was taught to check the bicycle inner tube after repair and before putting it back on the bike.  I'm just thinking about tests to determine if rubber has pinholes.  You probably can't see pinholes by holding it up to the light.  In fact, does that ever work?  It's making my brain hurt. ;)
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« Reply #7658 on: March 18, 2013, 03:37:36 PM »
"Hold the condom up to the light FIRST" after them.  But I really did resist (and I'm not just lying about that because I'm on ehell.)
I have almost no experience with condoms, but wouldn't it be safer to fill it with some air and put it under water to see if bubbles escape?  That's the way I was taught to check the bicycle inner tube after repair and before putting it back on the bike.  I'm just thinking about tests to determine if rubber has pinholes.  You probably can't see pinholes by holding it up to the light.  In fact, does that ever work?  It's making my brain hurt. ;)

ahem...um..yes it does work  :-X

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« Reply #7659 on: March 18, 2013, 09:27:06 PM »
I have almost no experience with condoms, but wouldn't it be safer to fill it with some air and put it under water to see if bubbles escape? 
That might make it rather difficult to...apply. Being unrolled, blown up, and soggy, that is.

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« Reply #7660 on: March 18, 2013, 09:42:54 PM »
The whole concept of sleeping with somebody you don't trust, to the extent that you'd feel the need to check the condoms for holes, makes *my* brain hurt.
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« Reply #7661 on: March 18, 2013, 10:42:55 PM »
The whole concept of sleeping with somebody you don't trust, to the extent that you'd feel the need to check the condoms for holes, makes *my* brain hurt.
This was a bit judgmental. 

I often have my own stash in my purse.  However, I have been caught without them.  So if a guy pulls a condom out that is not brand new from somewhere, I have no problem double checking to make sure no minuscule holes have appeared.  And yes I have caught tiny little pinpricks in brand new looking wrappers

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« Reply #7662 on: March 18, 2013, 10:50:42 PM »
The whole concept of sleeping with somebody you don't trust, to the extent that you'd feel the need to check the condoms for holes, makes *my* brain hurt.
You seem to be implying that the only holes that could appear in the condom would be intentionally inflicted.  I was thinking about manufacturing defects.  Or are you saying that if you trust someone, you don't need to use a condom.  I agree that you shouldn't have s3x with anyone you don't trust, but I'm not sure where the condom fits in.

For the record, I'm not a prude, but most of my experience comes from before I was married, which was before AIDS and HIV.  I used BC pills, so I didn't use condoms.  The rest of my life has been spent trying to conceive, which I never did, making me think I wasted a lot of money on BC pills.

I realize now that my method of testing would render the condom useless. Mahalo to Jocelyn for the humorous explanation. :-*
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Re: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt
« Reply #7663 on: March 19, 2013, 06:13:31 AM »
A geography brain hurty of a slightly different kind:

Geography class.

We'd been studying tourism as a topic and were about to start a case study on tourism in Turkey. For the life of me now I can't remember how it came up, but I made some comment about the capital of Turkey being Ankara.

Up pops the other class know-it-all: "No it isn't! It's Istanbul."
Me: "Err, no - it really is Ankara."
Her: "You're wrong. It's Istanbul. EVERYBODY knows that."
Me: "Err, no. Look - our atlases have Ankara marked as the capital."
Her: "Well they're wrong."
Me: "..."

Fortunately for my sanity (unfortunately for the other 23 people in the room, who'd been watching/listening to this conversation like spectators at a car wreck), the teacher arrived at that moment and opened her lesson with a brief description of Turkey, including the name of the capital.

Ankara.

I half wondered if the other class know-it-all would continue to argue, but apparently she'd accept information if it was given by the teacher - just not from me, even when I was backed up by a respectably published atlas!

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« Reply #7664 on: March 19, 2013, 08:33:04 AM »
They were all quite amazed as they had never known any man who had been married that long who said he enjoyed it. Apparently they all make 'ball and chain' type jokes.

I don't think the ball and chain jokes necessarily mean the man was unhappy. It's a way of saying "Oh, if only I hadn't been married, I could have spent my life being fawned over by Swedish supermodels. Because I'm that kind of stud, you know?"
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