[bg] DH has had back problems for years and has had a flare up in the last few months. This meant that I was essentially a single mum working full time in terms of practical chores. End result is that the yard has been completely neglected and in the back is now almost knee height. The front is not too bad, just a little ragged due to being a different type of grass. DH organised a neighbour's son to come and mow it but he never showed up, so nothing got done [/bg]
Now, I know that it is really getting DH down that the yard is like this but with the extra expenses for his physio plus DD1's medical bills we really couldn't do anything about it up until now. But the christmas shopping for everyone else is done, physio is finished, and I think I can squeeze another couple of hundred out of the budget for a present for DH. I was thinking of getting him a gift certificate to one of those lawn care places, then he can take ownership of the process and (admittely indirectly) be the one to get the yard back under control.
The trouble is that everyone I've mentioned this to has responded with varieties of "Ha! Good one! That'll show him!"
I'm not TRYING to show him. I am not even remotely annoyed with him that the lawn is in this state - he was injured for goodness' sake . I flat out didn't have time, DD1 has bad hayfever reactions to cut grass and DD2 is too young to mow. It is in such a state that although I now have time I don't have the physical strength to mow knee long grass (on a hill to boot). DH's back is much better but won't be up to tackling such a big job for a while. I am also worried that he will try and do it sooner than he should and hurt himself again.
So, oh wise e-hellions, could you tell me - do you think this seems like a PA dig? I don't want DH to feel like I'm undermining him on Christmas (I'll save that for the other days - b'doom tish). I'd love to get male perspectives on this too so any male ehellions or male friends handy please help? Is this one of those times when my female brain can't see the male perspective or am I just being oversenstive?