Mr. Knitterly and I have a friend we will call Bob.
Bob is a decent guy...most of the time. He can be kind of clueless far too often and his cluelessness too often pushes into rudeness. But he's taken to doing something that crosses the line and is culturally insulting. He has no real idea how insulting, though.
BG: When Little Knit was baking, we called her Little Ninja. This was a nod to the ongoing ninja jokes in our circle and to the fact that she was super active (and also unexpected in spite of years of trying). Yes, I know ninjas are japanese and not chinese, but the ninja jokes are just jokes. There are also a lot of Chuck Norris jokes in our circle. Mr. Knitterly is Chinese.
When LK was born, Bob decided she was going to call him SeeFu.
Here's the problem: That title is actually an honorific and he has no right to the title. It means Master. It is reserved for a teacher, usually in Kung Fu. A student will decide to call a master teacher "SeeFu", but it is not a title to be demanded. I'd be far more comfortable with her calling him Uncle. Every time Bob refers to himself as SeeFu, my husband cringes. He might as well be demanding to be called Father.
My husband has asked Bob not to call himself that. He has told Bob not to call himself that. He was informed Bob that he is NOT SeeFu and that LK will not be calling him SeeFu. Bob thinks it's a joke and keeps on referring to himself as SeeFu. Bob is not chinese and is not well versed in chinese culture. What he knows of it comes from hollywood.
Bob does not know martial arts and will not have a prominent place in LK's life as a teacher. That said, Bob is a neighbour as well as a friend and we do see him often.
I need figure out how to put the kibosh on this as Mr. Knitterly of the typically infinite patience is growing increasingly impatient and slightly hostile over this.