One of the things that gets me about this story line, is the inconsistency of it.
Take, for example, Elizabeth's letter from November (on the FBOFW website, each major character writes a letter each month that provides more information about what they've been doing. In this letter, she writes:
"I miss Paul, too. It's been a long time since I've seen him last. Thanks to Skype we can talk to each other for hours over our computers without paying for long distance charges, but that's hard in its own way because I'm glued to my laptop all night, listening to him as he goes about making dinner or filling out reports. It's like he's in the next room - I can hear his sink dripping, and I can hear the train going by outside his window, but at the same time he's so many hours away it makes me miss him more. He tells me his transfer is "in the works". That's one hope I've been hanging onto. I want him here!"
So at that point, they seem to be skyping each other while they go about various activities in the evening - gosh, funny thing she never heard Susan in the background...
We're in pretty constant communication, but I haven't seen Paul in quite a while, so it was very strange indeed to be spending days at the courthouse with Anthony. Most men wouldn't be happy to know that their girlfriends were spending entire days hanging out with ex-boyfriends having long conversations. Paul has been wonderful; he understands the circumstances and while he couldn't be here with me during the court process (because of his job), we talked on the phone daily and he gave me as much advice about the law as he could.
Again, pretty constant communication. When is he carrying on with Susan? And managing his job, and the commute to Mtig? He's talking to Elizabeth daily, yet planning to dump her only when she travels up?
I need to go - I have to call Paul and make some more travel arrangements. I can't wait to see him. We have a lot to talk about - especially his transfer which he says has come through! I know he'll have some adjusting to do. City life won't come easy. Even though he's lived down here (police college, courses etc.) it's not the same as "making the move". We haven't talked about marriage yet. We have talked about our futures! I think my parents are totally accepting and will get along with his family really well. Paul's mom and dad are exceptional people - very involved with their community. They're good to me and I think they'd be wonderful in-laws...when and if. But - I'm not going into wedding mode. Some of my friends totally focused on gowns and gala events, maybe more than they focused on the seriousness of the ceremony. When I say "yes", it'll be because I know it's going to be a working, long-term partnership. The ceremony is secondary. Security and commitment come first!
They still seem to be talking, and he's said that the transfer has come through (although not the transfer south, apparently). I don't know - there's less of a sense of constant contact, but there still isn't a "I don't hear from him at all, wonder what's happening" concept there.