I'm not sure there is an etiquette issue here, just thought I would share what I thought was a humorous experience for me...Thanksgiving Day in line at a buffet restaurant.
My DD, grandson and I are in line, an adult man & his parents get in line behind me and he immediately starts a conversation with me. I am very big on being polite to strangers in line everywhere and I think it truly does expand my (not so great) social skills and it never hurts to be kind and friendly. We discuss the weather, the drought, our ages, simple chitchat. He is obviously hitting on me, which my DD asks about, I whispered,"I'm just trying to be polite".
He asks where I'm from, I tell him I am a native of our city. He says, "I'm from here too, but first thing I did was move to AnotherCity where they are more free thinking." I ask how he liked that and he said he had to move back home to help take care of his parents. I mention that I nursed my parents prior to their death many years ago. He says, "I've already told them that when it is time I will be putting them in a facility."
He asks about my grandson's father and I say that he is very good at participating in his life even though they (he & my daughter) are not together anymore. I offer the information that my DD's have not heard a word from their father in years - he basically abandoned both my girls after the divorce. He says, "yes after my divorce I let my ex raise our kids, I don't know anything about raising kids."
He asks where I went to college and I say that I am actually finishing up my degree locally - at the age of 50. He says, "why bother?"
He says, "I don't believe in organized religion." I say, "I am a devout Baptist, we attend XYZ Baptist Church. Perhaps you would like to visit ABC Church (a local nondenominational church), I think you will find that churches are much more open minded and relaxed than when we were younger." He says that is not for him. I respect this, church is not for everyone.
He offers me a business card with his cell phone written on the back and asks if I have a card, I say "no, I don't." He says well give me a call if you are interested and don't if you aren't.
I said, "quite honestly I probably won't. I work 60 hours a week and take classes as the local college plus run our household and play golf/tennis regularly, right now I just don't have time for a relationship
." He doesn't seem offended by this.
It has now taken an hour to get to the actual buffet choosing portion. We part ways and when I get home I throw his card away. I didn't think he was rude, I didn't think I was either, I just don't think that we would have much in common from this conversation.
My daughter said, he really struck out with you didn't he? And I said it was more like a bingo.