I really appreciate everybody's input on this subject.
My gut feeling is that I should keep my mouth shut. My heart is going all over the place.
This is about DD#2 who has recently (almost 2 months ago) broken up with her BF#2. They were dating
for 2 years.
Since the break-up DD#2 has been hanging out with Bob. Bob is 21 and DD#2 is 17-1/2. DD#2 says that they are "just friends." The hanging out has grown into more often and doing things like dinner and movies, etc.*
Bob has a part time job, goes to community college (part time . . . doesn't know what he wants to do with his life) and lives with his mother. He also broke up with his long time GF several months ago.
Here's the kicker -- Bob is DD#1's BF#1's brother. So I know him well, DD#2 knows him well and guess what? He was
very close friends with BF#2. (BF#2 has been ousted from the core group of friends . . . even Bob says he wants nothing to do with BF#2 any more.)
*Anywhoo . . . my problem is that I'm thinking that Bob is taking BF#2's place in my daughters life. Someone to hang with. Someone to talk to. Someone to mend her broken heart.
I'd really like to curb the frequency that they see each other. I don't have any good reason other than I think that he's the "rebound guy."
There's more BG, like Bob's mom already has Bob and DD#2 married (a completely different thread
) . . . and the fact that Bob is "familyish" due to DD#1 and Bob's brother (BF#1) dating
I dunno. Maybe I'm completely off base.
I will heed your advice, keep my mouth shut and try to gently guide DD#2 concerning healthy relationships
. . . non specific discussions about relationships
Maybe I'm more gun-shy than DD#2 is. I just don't want to see her get hurt again.