I attend a small, Mainline Protestant church and am one of the younger adult members. Our congregation has a hand full of members who have come from more conservative (in all ways) denominations. We also have a lot of diversity in what people wear on Sunday morning: I personally favor vintage skirts and cardigans; think 1950s librarian. But one particular church member, who is both elderly and from one of these more conservative traditions, has taken me in hand clothing-wise. She has taken to suggesting my knee-length skirts are too short and that my collar bone-baring tops are too low cut. Nearly every week she has some comment about what I have on. I generally ignore what she's said and greet her affably.
Last Sunday I was wearing a big, woolly turtleneck sweater with jeans and boots because it was especially cold out. On her way up to receive Holy Communion she bent over and said not-at-all quietly to me in a very quiet sanctuary "I don't care for the dungarees but at least you've covered your bosoms for once." I ignored her.
My attitude is that, well, only one of us looks crazy and inappropriate. I was hardly the only person wearing jeans that morning, and several other women dress less conservatively than I do, which isn't really saying much. I should add that this woman's behavior isn't connected to dementia or similar problems: I've known her many years, and she's always prized her bluntness.
But, really, yikes.