We got together with my sister's family just after Christmas. My partner and I exchange gifts with my sister and her boyfriend every year. This gathering had both sister's adult kids and her boyfriend's adult kids in attendance, and would be the big "Christmas gathering" because we couldn't all get together on the actual day.
I thought I understood that, as in other years when we had similar gatherings, we'd all just give presents to those we usually did. Everyone would have presents to unwrap that way. We aren't very close to any of the adult children.
Imagine my surprise when my spouse and I got gifts from most of the adult children! We hadn't brought anything for any of them, since we'd never exchanged in past years. I managed to not show my dismay, and did enjoy the gifts.
What do we do? Send them belated gifts? And what to do next year? Our budget isn't up to spending another $100 at Christmastime on gifts for people we barely know! I'm not sure why this happened or why we weren't warned. I'd actually rather not exchange gifts with them, but I don't know how to say that gently.