Rude bank teller.

[IndianInlaw]

My son (he gets SSI) and I don't split expenses other than rent (I make more, so I pay more).  We just pay specific bills.   It works out well and we are equally broke at the end of the month.

He pays truck maintenance and repairs and I buy gas.  He put gas in the truck when I wasn't present and I owed him money.

Today at the bank, we were sorting out which money we were taking out of what accounts to pay what.  He said (he talks loud). "You owe me for gas."  I said "Okay, okay".

Now we've been customers there for five years and know the tellers.  One of them took offense and said "Did she charge you for delivering you?"   I thought that was a bit personal and very rude....I said "I got so much child support I made money on him".   She changed the subject and complimented his Weather Channel jacket.

Still, I think she was rude for commenting when she doesn't know how much money he pays in bills.  Even if she did know, it was still rude. 

[Chocolate Cake]

I agree.  This is another fine example of where "It takes a Village" totally backfires.  She was trying to be supportive of you, his mother, but ended up butting in where she shouldn't have.

[IndianInlaw]

Well, he's 23.  I'm not in charge of him any more.

[NOVA Lady]

Totally out of line. I am sure in her head she thought it was witty/funny because he's your son and you've done so much finacially for him (you know, as a parent I think everyone spends money of their kids). But I hope most parents aren't out there hoping to recoup all those expenses, lol Instead it came out as totally innapropriate.

Sorry that happened to you!

[Chocolate Cake]

Understood, but his comment must have made her think he still needed some reprimanding as though he was younger.

[Brentwood]

It was very rude of her. Your personal financial arrangements with your son are none of her business.

[IndianInlaw]

He needed no reprimanding.  I owed him money.   He previously remembered he when owed me, even though I had forgotten.

[MineralDiva]

Well, in my opinion....if it truly "takes a village"....then you just met the Village Idiot!  LOL

[Rose2Bear]

She was definetly out of line. How you handle your money is of no concern to anyone but you and your son, so she should not have commented on it.

Plus, did she even know for sure he was your son? I know you said you know all the tellers, but maybe she didnt know you as well as the others? What if it was your nephew, or maybe you were dating a much younger man? It could happen, and if she didn't know you, then she definetly should not have commented.  If she does know for certainty he was your son, then I can see WHY she might have been inclined to say what she did, but she should have kept that comment to herself regardless.

[Chocolate Cake]

He needed no reprimanding.

I understand.  She apparently didn't or she wouldn't have said anything. 

[IndianInlaw]

Rose, everyone knows he's my son.  He's like the star of the bank.

[Rose2Bear]

Rose, everyone knows he's my son.  He's like the star of the bank.

Ah gotcha. 

[Sharnita]

She was rude. However, I would be alittle askance at a couple of family members discussing who owes whom what in front of me. Was there no other time or venue for him to mention this to you?

[IndianInlaw]

Well, we were in a bank, discussing money.  If that is impolite, it is less so than mentioning billing for childbirth.

[ShadesOfGrey]

Well, we were in a bank, discussing money.  If that is impolite, it is less so than mentioning billing for childbirth.

Sounds like you already made up your mind on this one. 

I do think it was rude of her and may have given her a pointed look, and then turned back to my son and continued the conversation with him (no need to dignify her rudeness with a response, which speaks volumes itself).  That being said, I also think it is inappropriate to discuss financial matters in the presence of others.