Is this the BF you have been seeing since April, with the ex with cerebral palsy? So if I have my math right, it's been about 8-9 months.
I am trying to find an appropriate way to deal with my boyfriend's busy personal & work schedule & find a way for us to have more time together.
He lives at an apartment complex that only allows guests to stay a total of 10 days per month. If a guest stays more than 10 days a month, then that person has to contribute to the rent, & he will be asked to rent a one bedroom apartment. He lives in an efficency apartment. He does not want me staying 6 or more days a month because he is afraid that if I do that, he might get a warning by the apartment manager.
Unless you are required to sign in/out with dates and times, how would the apartment management know how many times you had stayed overnight? Your BF wants to limit your staying over to 6 days or less a month, or a little over once per week. Have you been staying over more than that and this is a new development, or has it been this way for the entire time and you want to stay over more now? If you would be there 10 nights per month, that's basically every third night (or both nights every weekend). Your BF may see that as more of a "living together" situation that he is not ready for.
He tends to forget after we make plans to get together that he made plans for a previous engagement. A couple of times we had to reschedule our plans to get together because of this.
You two had plans to do something and he forgot, made plans with someone else, then made you reschedule? That is rude on his part, and shows a remarked lack of caring for you, your time and your feelings. He is not making you his priority, or if he actually forgot your plans and made others, he would reschedule his other plans because your plans were made first and because you are his girlfriend (and should be a priority).
He works part-time. The company he works for gives him a work schedule, but there have been times when he has been called to work on a day that he is not working when we had made plans to get together. This has happened a couple of times.
If he is called into work when you have plans, there is nothing he can do about that except go to work. With the economy the way it is, there are several others who would take his job if he didn't show up when needed.
We really do not spend enough time together, & this is frustrating for me. What is an appropriate way for me to approach this subject?You
believe that the two of you don't spend enough time together, he
may think that you are spending enough time together. You sound like you are at different points in the rel@tionship. You want to move forward and he either wants to stay the same pace or move back. The best bet is for you and BF to talk about the rel@tionship, where you each think it is going and what you both want. If your wants/ideas about the rel@tionship aren't compatible, you may need to move on.