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When people ignore your requests

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RuneGuardian:
Why is it people will completely ignore you when you ask them to do or not to do something? I hate to call my mom's boyfriend out again in another topic, but I must. Sometimes he'll ask me if I would like something to eat, and more often than not I politely refuse because I'm not hungry at that time or I'm doing something and do not want to stop, or any other reason. More often than not, he disregards my request and brings me something anyway. It's nice of him, but when I say I'm not hungry, I'm not jut kidding. Of course when I try to say that I actually did NOT want something, he gets very huffy. Tonight I was feeling a bit under the weather and I had a small meal and went back to sleep. A couple hours later I got woke up and asked by BF if I wanted something to eat, to wich I said "no". I guess to him, "no" sounds exceedingly similar to "yes" and some time later I got woke up a second time and given food. I was not particularly hungry, but I still ate it because I knew BF would throw a tantrum if I said I wasn't hungry.

Do these kinds of people think they're being some kind of saint when they blatantly dieregard someone's request? Or am I the one being rude?

Suze:
If he makes you something that you don't want, you could always accept it, get up, wrap it up and put it back in the fridge.  Tell him thank you for fixing my lunch tomorrow.

As far as being woke up to be given food. That is just plain rude.

Don't eat something to be polite, or not to make someone "huffy"

It is *your* tummy and you should know when it is hungry. (If I eat and lay down, you can bet I will be up again within an hour "releaving" myself of said food.)  And If you wake me up It. Is. Not. Pretty.

Sounds like BF is a very controlling man.

Chocolate Cake:
I don't think I'd make a point of discussing this with your Mom's BF.   Not eating any of what you are given each and every time will make more of an impression than any conversation.   To maximize the message, don't even pick up your fork, don't pick at the food, etc.  Just push it away to the side or immediate get up and set it on the kitchen counter next to the sink.

With regard to your BF, however, fire away; first for waking you up when you are sick and secondly for bringing you food when you said "no".

RuneGuardian:
Thank you for the replies. Unfortunately, my mom always encourages me to just go along with whatever BF says or does to not risk upsetting him. He's not violent or anything, but she gets paranoid that he'll up and leave if we make him mad (very long story).

Irish Clovers:
If I may be so bold to say, if he would "up and leave" because you didn't feel like eating something you were being forced to.....good riddence.  He doesn't seem like good BF material.

I apologize if I overstepped my bounds but coming from two BAD relationships with two VERY controlling men, it just burns my hide to hear other women putting up with it.

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