This is a long way off and I'm not even sure if Hubs is going on this trip or not but it got me thinking...
Hubs and I have been together for nearly 8 total years, moved 7 hours away from home 4 years ago, and have been married for 8 months. Before this past Christmas, we had spent every Christmas together as follows:
- Christmas Eve with Mom's side of the family.
- Christmas Day: Lunch and presents with Dad's side of the family, then over to Hubs aunt's house for dinner and more presents, then back to Dad's side of the family for dessert and games. (It's definitely lop-sided, I know that. Hubs' family consists of him, his Mom and Dad, Mom's two sisters, each of whom is married and each has two kids (12 people including me). Their get-together's are small and quiet and short. My Dad's family is Grandma and her 5 kids, each of whom is married, plus 9 cousins and their significant others and 5 great-grandchildren. Presents alone are an all-day affair. Parties with this family last for at least 6 hours, if not more.)
So. This past Christmas, now that we're married, we decided to take holidays as they come instead of blindly saying, "Yeah, we're definitely coming up for Christmas this year!". This past Christmas was spent at home with each other then we went to a nice dinner with friends.
There's a chance this next Christmas Hubs could be traveling and we may be unable to spend Christmas together. If so, I would definitely be traveling home to spend the holiday with family. My question (finally) - would you feel obligated to spend a portion of Christmas day with your in-laws if your spouse wasn't going to be there? I definitely plan on visiting my MIL and FIL while I'm in town, but honestly, if Hubs isn't there, I'd rather spend Christmas day with just my family and not break up the day like we normally did. I don't get many holiday with just my family anymore and I miss it sometimes.
FYI - There is no toxicity between me and my IL's, they're nice people who love me like a daughter and I know they would love to have me there to celebrate Christmas with them, with or without Hubs.