I've been with the same guy since I was 14. We were high school sweethearts, married young and have a really good relationship. I have single friends who tell me I'm so LUCKY I found a man so early and never had to brave the dating scene, because I have it SOOOOO easy*. When we go out, they complain about not being able to find a good guy, and demand to know how to grab someone like DH. (Because he is pretty awesome)
I tell them the same thing every time- based on what DH has told me. "You know how when you're looking for your keys and you toss your whole house, turning over everything you touch, trying to find them? You give up, flop down on the couch, and the minute you stop looking, you see them under your TV cabinet? It's the same thing with guys. They can tell when you're out looking for a man, and the more you seem to be looking, the less interested they're going to be. But if you're just out, being yourself, enjoying your life, good men are going to see that and be attracted to that."
Seriously, men can scent desperation like bees can smell fear.
*I just want to yell, "Are you insane? Do you have any idea how much work it is to stay with a man for more than half your life, to keep his interest, to prevent having the same conversation over and over? And I haven't just dated one man- I've dated mid-teens "I'm not sure where to put my hands" Mr. Weeble, weird Steven Segal-obsessed late teens Mr. Weeble, early 20s "not sure what I want to do with my life" Mr. Weeble, and mid20s, "we have a five-year plan!" Mr. Weeble, and now, "dependable, law and order" Mr. Weeble.
Is he a super-model? No. Has he ever stood outside my window, holding up a boombox, blasting "In Your Eyes? No. Is he still obsessed with bluegrass music and lame martial arts movies? Yes. But the measure of a good guy is in his actions, even if they weren't the actions we were "expecting." Through it all, he has always treated with kindness, respect, and love. That's what a good guy does.