The above sounds good, as long as you're prepared for the reply. And possibly prepared to delve deeper to work out what's going on. I agree with the others above who claim that this is more a relationship than an etiquette issue and that you might benefit from a bit of thought about how what you're saying affects how he sees you.
You don't need to be a girly-girl, but treading the line between femininity and not can be difficult. I am also not a girly girl - I played rugby, lift weights, ride horses and play with my dogs. However, some years ago a friend and I decided we'd try to move from being 'low maintenance' to 'medium maintenance'. Which just meant remaining capable and strong, but dressing a little different, allowing people to take care of us and taking care of them in more 'traditional' ways. For me, it also meant doing things like getting hair cut regularly, stopping biting my nails and so on. This still works for me, despite very strong feminist beliefs, because DH is able to feel that he is nurtured and nurtures in response.
Jokes are one thing in private, but many men like to 'win' and will usually carry on until they do. You might need to think about how to manage that.