Well, I'm back with an update.
After figuring out the cost of a simple family bbq, my son asked me if i'd be willing to listen to another option. Apparently, he and his GF wanted to do a week at Disney World and he's been slowly saving up a little bit of money in hopes that they might be able to take a lil' vacation.
Well, I said "you mean, I won't have to worry about family arguing, invitations, thank you notes, tables, chairs, cake, food, etc, etc, etc? Heck yes, I'll send you to Disney!" It's a win/win for everyone. Whew! No more stress.
So instead of spending $1K on a party, I'm sending my son to Disney and saving myself a lil' bit of money. The youngest kiddo is mad 'cause he wants to go too.