I hope this is the right forum, or maybe it belongs in the family forum. So please move it if necessary.
So I met my now dh when I was technically with someone else. My bf at the time and I were doing the long distance thing. Not that that's an excuse for having an affair but anyways I hope there's no judgement here.
My dh and I worked together so that's how we ended up meeting. So I was planning to take a trip up north for a weekend and dh, then the "other man" at the time, asked if he could come with. I really wasn't expecting this and just said if he could manage to get the time off sure. It was hard to get time off, especially weekends at our work so I didn't think it would happen. He got the time off though so he came with. I was meeting my aunt and uncle while up there so I introduced him as a friend. They immediately fell in love with him (they told me so afterwards) and have always told me they were so happy we ended up together. You know after we officially announced that we were together and all. No one had any knowledge of the affair that happened before that. I'm sure they had their suspicions but it's really none of their business.
So this past Thanksgiving my uncle from up north was down for the holiday. Dh and I were spending it at BIL's house with other BIL and SIL and my little sister. So we're eating and having conversation and my uncle flat out asks me "So that time you two came up north, you were together then weren't you?" I was so not expecting that, that all I could do was answer with the truth and simply said yes. Of course EVERYONE at the table decided to turn their eyes on us at that time (when they were just previously engulfed in their own conversations!) and ask what he meant. And my uncle repeated that I was with someone else when I met dh. I, like an idiot, just repeated "Yeah I was with someone else..." and then everyone was still staring so I tried to make a joke of it and added "But he stole me away."
I hate to think what my 2 BILs and SIL think of me now! And I'm angry for my uncle bringing up something that #1 wasn't even his business and #2 in front of my dh's family! I haven't really talked to my uncle since. Dh and I were supposed to meet him later that Thanksgiving weekend for a family dinner but when I realized it was with some members of the family that I had had a recent falling out with I declined going. I just said something came up and we couldn't go. He never responded to that. He's on my facebook and just recently it was his birthday so I wished him a happy birthday and he "liked" that.
I feel like things are awkward with us now possibly because I confirmed the affair, and because I didn't go to the other dinner that weekend. I just don't know. Of course I feel wronged at the same time because that affair was not his nor anybody else's business and he made it everyone's business! How would you all have handled something like this?
I think they plan to visit this year, plus dh and I wanted to visit up north, not just to see them but we like that city as well. So I'm sure I will see them. I really don't like confrontations and what's done is done so should I just act like nothing happened and if they bring it up then discuss it?