Editeer... that's exactly the problem. He apparently has been saying/implying that we're an item. Sample conversation:
Mark: How's your boyfriend?
Me: What boyfriend?
Mark: You know, that guy who comes in here, what's his name...
Me: You don't mean Carl, do you?
Mark: Yeah, him.
Me: He's not my boyfriend.
Mark: Really? I thought...
Me: No. I never see him outside of the tastings. Did he say that we were
Mark: Well, um... yeah, he kind of did.
For something like this, I think it's imperative to know exactly what was said before you respond. And I'm still not clear on that. For one thing, on the bolded, your question and Mark's response are rather vague. What is "kind of did"? Also, is Mark a reliable person? Have others said the same thing?
I sound like an interrogator, but that's because I agree with you that if he's actually saying the two of you are dating, this is bothersome. I just haven't seen anything that proves this.
Obviously, you want to detach from Carl as quickly and politely as you can, but if he's actually lying to people, I personally would say something more strongly worded to him.
I've had a number of people ask me if Carl and I were dating
and seem surprised when I immediately said no. I asked three of them if Carl had said so, and they all said yes. I didn't press for details, though. I suspect that this wasn't Carl volunteering information about our "relationship
." If I had to guess, I'd say that Carl responded to queries directed at him in the affirmative, or was deliberately vague rather than simply saying, "No, Sweet and I our not dating
I haven't heard any more questions about it, so I suspect one of the guys who asked me and heard the truth has perhaps spread the word. (The other regulars often do things outside of the tastings.) I think I'll maintain a polite chill with Carl for now. I don't especially like creating drama. If it comes up again, though, I'll definitely call him out. Fingers crossed that my "Oh, God no!" reaction has corrected the misconception about my relationship