Let me start off by saying yes, I feel horrible having to post this but I'm at my wit's end and not sure how to handle. I've been a member of a gym going on 3 years now. There is an adult, mentally-challenged (or whatever the PC term is for it) 40+ year old woman whose parents drop her off at the beginning of the day and pick her up around 8:00 at night.
When I first started attending the gym, she would come over as soon as I walked in (not just me but as each person comes into the door) and want to talk to you. Not having a problem with that, I would always say hello then go about my way. However, it has escalated to the point that whenever someone walks in, she starts yelling hi from across the gym. Doesn't matter if you are on the phone, talking to someone else, have on ear phones, if you don't hear and acknowledge her, she has what I can only describe as a meltdown. Foot stomping, huffing and puffing, she makes quite the production.
When we are lining up during a class, or getting our equipment out, she's walking around the room trying to talk to everyone. I wouldn't mind that but she'll take it up a notch if you talk to her back. She'll start grabbing and hugging on you, she tried to kiss another lady member on the mouth, walking around pulling down her pants or pulling up her shirt to show off if she's wearing a new bra or panties. She's disrupting the classes when they are in session, yelling out, trying to talk to people that may have come in late. One instructor got so fed up she forbade her from coming into the class area.
Well that set off WWIII with her parents, who marched up to the gym, spouting the ADA act and made such a fuss that the gym told the instructor that she couldn't not let her in the class. Consequently, the instructor in question (who was there for five years) quit. Please note, she is not participating in the classes, there are other challenged individuals who do attend the class and actually participate, but this is not the case with this person. When she's not interrupting, she stands up front by the mirror staring at herself and playing with her hair. There was one incident she grabbed the clock off the wall and smashed it on the floor.
Again, please don't think I'm a big meanie, I do have sympathy for people like her. That being said though, the gym is not an adult daycare facility. I'm kinda an introvert and DO NOT like to be touched or having her in my face every time I walk in the door. I come straight from work and if it's been a really bad day, I just want to come in and work out. Not only that, she's disrupting the class and someone is going to get distracted and get hurt. I am not the only person feeling like this. She kept interrupted the class last night and the instructor was visibly irritated and had to keep telling her to quit talking. Other members have stated they are uncomfortable with her as well.
I'd like to send an email or write something to the managers of the gym. I don't feel she should be banned but I do feel that she should be escorted by her parents since they feel so strongly about her being able to attend the class. How do I phrase a letter given the delicate nature of her disability without sounding like a big mentally-challenged hater?