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Bad Relatives: Evil MIL
Twik:
Yes, I don't think that quote can be used to prove Golden Grandchild didn't care about his grandmother. It may well be he meant, "tell me that my anniversary will not be also the day my grandmother died."
DoubleTrouble:
--- Quote from: JadeAngel on February 27, 2012, 06:21:39 AM ---*snip*
There are no explanations for the sandwich affair which seems to be pure malice on the part of the MIL, but when the LW claims they got along fine in the beginning, it's rather odd that she can offer no explanation for this sudden change except for an outburst of racism.
As I said, maybe I'm just cynical
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I've seen it with my own brother.
He was dating a woman (let's call her Meg) who was born in Asia (we're white) & came over here when she was young. Her parents were always nice to DB while they were dating but when Meg got pregnant all heck broke loose. Granted, my family didn't have the best time of it either & we tried our best to be supportive but Meg's parents insisted my nephew be given up for adoption (DB & Meg didn't want to get married, they had actually broken up). As Meg was not allowed back into her parent's home until after she had given birth, she ended up spending a lot of time with my parents since she lived in my hometown to go to college & DB was going to another school out of state. My mom had to be the one to take her shopping for maternity clothes & go to doctor's visits!
Meg's parents never wanted to see the baby even though my nephew's adopted parents practically insisted we become part of their lives via an open adoption (which we are eternally grateful for). My family has lost touch with Meg but from what we've heard through the grapevine, when Meg started dating another non-Asian & got pregnant again (but she did marry that guy), her parents disowned her. It was hard to go through all of it for us, I can't imagine how hard it was on Meg. Very sad.
lollylegs:
--- Quote from: Asharah on February 26, 2012, 10:54:31 PM ---Thankfully, I had packed a cooler full of food for us since we had driven hundreds of miles to get there. So my son and I ate and were fine. However, they will no longer have the privilege of seeing the wonderful little boy who will surely grow up to have better manners then they showed. Thanks so much for the site!
Relatives1210-04
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This is the strange part for me. If the LW had food, why bother with all the nonsense about the sandwiches, especially if she was hypoglycemic?
LeveeWoman:
--- Quote from: lollylegs on March 14, 2012, 07:18:47 AM ---
--- Quote from: Asharah on February 26, 2012, 10:54:31 PM ---Thankfully, I had packed a cooler full of food for us since we had driven hundreds of miles to get there. So my son and I ate and were fine. However, they will no longer have the privilege of seeing the wonderful little boy who will surely grow up to have better manners then they showed. Thanks so much for the site!
Relatives1210-04
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This is the strange part for me. If the LW had food, why bother with all the nonsense about the sandwiches, especially if she was hypoglycemic?
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Then, she went into the kitchen and made sandwiches for 14 people. Except that there were 16 of us. My poor son and myself were left out. After everyone had eaten (including my husband, but he didn't know what had transpired) I said, "Could I possibly make something for myself and my son?" And she said, "Oh, I didn't know if you people would eat sandwiches. I don't keep any rice in the house."
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Why the nonsense? Because she and her son were deliberately excluded from eating by the hostess who then hurled a racial slur at her.
Mental Magpie:
--- Quote from: LeveeWoman on March 14, 2012, 07:57:17 AM ---
--- Quote from: lollylegs on March 14, 2012, 07:18:47 AM ---
--- Quote from: Asharah on February 26, 2012, 10:54:31 PM ---Thankfully, I had packed a cooler full of food for us since we had driven hundreds of miles to get there. So my son and I ate and were fine. However, they will no longer have the privilege of seeing the wonderful little boy who will surely grow up to have better manners then they showed. Thanks so much for the site!
Relatives1210-04
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This is the strange part for me. If the LW had food, why bother with all the nonsense about the sandwiches, especially if she was hypoglycemic?
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Then, she went into the kitchen and made sandwiches for 14 people. Except that there were 16 of us. My poor son and myself were left out. After everyone had eaten (including my husband, but he didn't know what had transpired) I said, "Could I possibly make something for myself and my son?" And she said, "Oh, I didn't know if you people would eat sandwiches. I don't keep any rice in the house."
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Why the nonsense? Because she and her son were deliberately excluded from eating by the hostess who then hurled a racial slur at her.
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I think what lollylegs is trying to say is that if she was hypoglycemic, why would she wait so long for the sandwiches to be made, then ask about them, when she had the solution all along in the cooler in the car? Safety trumps etiquette, in which case, she should have gone out to the car and just got the food before her blood sugar plummeted rather than wait for her MIL to make not enough sandwiches, let everyone else eat them, then say something.
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