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Shoo:

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--- Quote from: Sophia on March 14, 2012, 09:38:45 AM ---Hillbilly/Redneck/ArmyLifer

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I have heard of hillbilly.  I have heard of redneck.  I have never heard of "armylifer."  What does it mean?  It sounds derogatory toward people in the army.

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An Army lifer is someone who will be in the Army for his/her entire working life, as opposed to someone who is in the military for a while and then becomes a civilian.

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Yep, just meant factual.  While Hillbilly and Redneck can be said as insults, sometimes like in this case, they are just factual and descriptive. 

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Descriptive of what?  That he's in the army and it's his career?  I do not understand what that's got to do with anything.  If you weren't trying to disparage him for it, why even mention it?

bloo:

--- Quote from: Sophia on March 14, 2012, 09:38:45 AM ---I hate to say it, but I believe every word.  My Best Friend's mother is Japanese and her father is Hillbilly/Redneck/ArmyLifer.  My friend hates and despises her Paternal Grandparents, because they treated her, her brothers and her mother like dirt.  Her father turned a blind-eye to it because, well, he is a toad and he wanted to see his family.

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Shoo, I think Sophia only mentioned it show how different, culturally speaking, the BFF's mother and father were. I didn't take it as a slur.

This is coming from a gal with an Asian mother and a Hillbilly/Redneck/NavyLifer father. :)

And the story is believable to me with the exception of DH tolerating the rude behavior towards the wife. My father was told in no uncertain terms to 'not bring that furr-e-nur around them'. My mom, not being able to conceive such rude behavior, dutifully sent greeting cards and pictures of us growing up - despite my dad giving them the Cut Direct. A few of them softened and spend time with my mom and us, but most treat us like we're invisible.

Redneck Gravy:
"Her husband and I get along famously, this could be the reason for the sudden about-face."

Since the OP's husband doesn't have any guts - where are his dad's? 

If they get along so famously where does he stand on all this?  Why hasn't he spoken up or stood up?  Why hasn't the OP spoken up OUT LOUD for all to hear...why hasn't anyone else spoken up? 

I can't believe in a family of 14 sandwich eaters no one else has seen this and hasn't spoken up.  Is the OP exaggerating a bit or does this really go on?

And I consider myself a Redneck but the way it was used previously was meant to be and is insulting. 

One Fish, Two Fish:

--- Quote from: Redneck Gravy on April 30, 2013, 02:00:06 PM --- "Her husband and I get along famously, this could be the reason for the sudden about-face."

Since the OP's husband doesn't have any guts - where are his dad's? 

If they get along so famously where does he stand on all this?  Why hasn't he spoken up or stood up?  Why hasn't the OP spoken up OUT LOUD for all to hear...why hasn't anyone else spoken up? 

I can't believe in a family of 14 sandwich eaters no one else has seen this and hasn't spoken up.  Is the OP exaggerating a bit or does this really go on?

And I consider myself a Redneck but the way it was used previously was meant to be and is insulting.

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Maybe FIL wasn't present?

Piratelvr1121:
My maternal grandmother died on my anniversary, though I didn't find out until the next day.  My mother always seemed to be kind of put out in the following years that I didn't mourn my grandmother every year on my anniversary.  And by mourn I mean "Finding no enjoyment at all in that date forever more."

I loved my grandmother but it seemed very unfair to my dh to go forth as though that date was forever poisoned in my mind because that's the day she passed.  We'd been married for 6 years at that point, now it's been 13 and I've not let Gigi's death forever cast a cloud over the day.  I miss her, but I actually find myself missing her more in the summer than on the day she died because I greatly miss eating her deviled crabs and chatting with her while crabbing off their pier.

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