I have tried to google this and have not been able to find it addressed. When one is invited to a hosted event, is it rude to "upscale" your normal food/drink choices? I am trying to get opinions on this, to see if there is any regional differences or generational differences, or possibly there will be a consensus.
Does your answer change if the event is hosted by a company or corporation? Or if the hosts know your personal tastes in food and how much/what you normally drink?
I do think there is a huge variance in the term "hosted event
" when you are given an open menu with prices listed. Event
, to me, says that it's something more than just a casual get-together with friends. A special occasion. Where the host is planning on spending more than usual.
1. If, by event
, you mean a social dinner out with a few friends? I would stick with my
usual price range. I wouldn't order the most expensive thing just because it's on someone else's dime. Same with drinks . . . order what you would if you were paying the tab.
2. If, by event
, you mean a special celebratory occasion (bday, graduation, anniversary) with a larger group of friends? I would hope that the host wouldn't mind if you upscaled your order just a touch. Still not ordering the most expensive thing. With drinks? I think it would be fine if you ordered one or two off the top-shelf, certainly not 5. Keep an eye on how your host is drinking then follow suit . . . If host orders 5? then go for it.
3. If, by event
, you mean a corporate business lunch/dinner? Stick with the #1 above. Do not order alcohol.
4. If, by event
, you mean a corporate celebratory dinner? If it's something like a "Thank You to the Team" type of dinner? I say order what you want. This is probably the only time that I would order the lobster/priciest dish simply because I felt that I earned it. And no, I did not feel guilty for ordering top-shelf alcohol. That was a wonderful meal.
But don't do what ex-boss did . . . he ordered 5 appetizers, offered to share, but there were other apps going around. Then he actually ordered two entrees and offered to share. THEN! he asked for the extras to be wrapped and he brought them home with him. :: Yeah, don't do that.
5. If you are presented a menu with no prices listed, feel free to order anything off of that menu.
Sorry if I got long-winded, but I do believe what/how you order depends on the type of event and who is hosting.