Well, they apologised. In the end.
I am still considering defriending. I posted a nice status about looking forward to St Patricks Day. I received the following from Graeme:
as an Englishman i'll be ignoring totally and waiting for April 23rd
I thought "Ok." That irked me a little bit because again he was making something else out of what I had said. However, it was another "friend's" comments that really, really wound me up.
I am with Graham on that, also on Sunday the 22nd April will be the St Georges Day Celebration on St Peters Hill Grantham I expect to see you there ;-)
Now I didn't ask for any kind of debate. It is nobody's business what I celebrate or why. These people's opinions matter not one jot to me and if it weren't for the fact I have been friends with Graeme for years and years, I would delete him like a shot.
*Tut* Offensive comments deleted.
I don't see these replies as problematic at all. You are posting about celebrating Irish pride and they remarked about celebrating their British pride. I don't see it as instigating anything or trying to debate you. It's simply a reply. I think in this case, you are looking for offense where none was intended. I see this being no different than if a friend posted about their Purim celebration and I replied with a comment about my Easter celebration. I'm not debating or saying anything, we're just talking about our repsective holidays that fall around the same time.
I don't know. The second one actually seems like fairly normal back and forth to me, especially after the first reply, but the first one seems a bit ... unnecessary, if you kwim. It would depend on the original status.
For example if Hollanda posted "Really looking forward to St Pat's day! Does anyone have plans?" then she's ASKED what he'll be doing and the response would be appropriate.
HOWEVER, if the OP was "Really looking forward to St Pat's day! Planning to drink green beer with X and Y at Ye Olde Irish Pub! Woot!" then the response would strike me as snotty, unnecessary and a bit patronising. Nobody asked what he was doing and the tone would drag down a light-hearted post.
To be honest, it sounds as though this guy is simply getting on your nerves a bit at the moment. It can happen in the oldest friendships, especially when one of you goes through something life changing. You may just need to distance yourself a little for a while and try and reconnect later.