People tell me this sometimes. It's not a lot of fun hearing that I have neither the looks nor personality to attract a person I'd actually like.
I think there's a difference between "a guy like this doesn't exist outside the movies" and "a guy like this exists, but you
couldn't attract him." The first, I think, can be a valuable reality check, while the second is rude and mean-spirited. It's also useful for people to remember that setting too many parameters can close them off from people they could conceivably fall in love with. People have the right to set whatever dealbreakers they like, but they have to do that with the understanding that they are limiting their dating
I have some of my own. I don't have an income minimum or a weight limit or a required hair color, but, for example, they have to be a SF/F geek, and funny, and it's a plus if they have a creative outlet. I know that closes me off from wide swaths of the population, but I'm ok with that, and I just go where the geeks are.
Meanwhile, one of the things I've relaxed on is grammar/spelling. I used to disdain anyone who couldn't spell as well as I could, and am now happily in a relationship
with someone who can't spell to save his life. Part of what got me past that was realizing that, as a former spelling bee champion, I'd have a very
pool if I stuck to that requirement. Another part of it was that I didn't meet my guy online, and so I got to know him before I ever saw anything he had written or typed. Thus, his spelling wasn't his first impression on me, while in online dating