Found this in the archives. My comments in red!
[/color]To begin with my mother in law to be had a disagreement after my 5th wedding shower. How many wedding showers does one couple need? As I was opening gifts with money or checks in them I had a box decorated as a home and said "Saving for Our Home" written on the side as I would receive money (check or cash) I would another Thank you to Ms...... for contributing to our new home fund I would fold it discretely and drop into the house. My mother in law to be stood up in a room of over 75 guests and screamed "hey tell us how much cash you are rolling in" after I was mortified I said My fiancée and I appreciate each and every gift from you and will use them with the best of intentions. Nice MIL.Thank goodness I was in a room surrounded by ladies that I have known my entire life ladies that could be as close as grandmothers and aunts After the shower she claimed I embarrassed her (how? by being polite when MIL was rude?) and I should have announced how much dough was in the stinking cards because the more cash someone spends on you is how much you mean to them. That morning my fiancée called me at work to tell me that his mother had phoned him and told him that if I couldn't step up my standards of a higher class society (higher class society? Really?) and agree with her then I had 72 hours to return the wedding rings or she was filling a charge with the police claiming I had stolen my wedding set from her home (I had been wearing his maternal grandmothers wedding ring for 11 months and this was 4 weeks before my wedding) He had bought my ring 1 year earlier and after showing it to them she insisting that I wear his grandmother's wedding ring (he is the only grandchild she has). I accepted very gracefully with tears and love both of us are only children and I knew how much love accompanied this ring his grandparents were married for over 50 years. I did return it and married with no ring other than my wedding just to prove that materials were not important to me as her sons love for me. My godparents owed a steak restaurant and asked to give the rehearsal dinner for over 40 people complements of them as one of our gifts. My fiancée and were flattered his parents refused and said that the rehearsal dinner was the grooms parents responsibility and they were having a BBQ. When the night of the dinner came There was a 12 foot long sign saying "congratulations Brian" nothing about me. Who was this actually for then, if not the Happy Couple?? His mother was drunk at 5 when my wedding party arrived and their were only place settings for His father, mother, grandmothers, and my fiancée at the head table. Not only was my name not there but my parents weren't even invited to the dinner. This would have been the point at which I'd have said something discreetly to MIL, if I hadn't done so earlier. And she placed my bridesmaids and groomsman in the corner of the room. And forced my fiancé's bestman (that is very very shy and terrified of crowds) to say a speech with preparation. Best men are supposed to make speeches here in the UK. Is this not the norm in the US? My maid of honor offered for the 2 of them to speak together to help with the fear and my fiancée's mother insisted this dinner was for her son not "that slut he is marring." Reading through this a few times, I actually feel sorry for the OP. Her MIL sounds like a really fun woman to get along with. But really, if you got to the rehearsal dinner and saw a banner saying "Congratulations fiance" and said nothing about you, and your family were not invited, that would for most people be the start of the red flag and blaring alarms sounding in your head. It's possible the OP was very young at the time, very inexperienced. I do feel that the OP's fiance should have done a whole lot more to support his bride to be. I hope OP has, since these episodes, developed a Polite Spine...with this MIL she would need it! Please comment below, because to me, OP should have spoken up earlier. I am deliberately not being too harsh on OP, thinking "Young and inexperienced". What say you, eHellions? [/font]