Wow, you're not able to help her out financially anymore, and so she defriends you?
Good riddance, I say. And yes, your husband should absolutely defriend her.
That's pretty much what I'm thinking, Shoo. We all worked together at one point, but she was a temp and hubby and I were full time, which meant we had more money. If we went out or anything, hubby and I financed the outing because she and her boyfriend couldn't afford it.
The straw that broke the camels back with me was a camping trip we took this past summer. Hubby and I brought a lot of food, and all of our supplies with us, so we had no need to leave the campsite. Friends boyfriend said he had to go back and do some things later that evening, and he would retrieve their food and things on the way. Her boyfriend proceeded to go and get two extra people, (a friend of his and a cousin) but not the food. One of the people boyfriend fetched bought HIMSELF some beer, and loudly announced upon arrival that it was his and his alone, and he was not sharing. Cousin was about as generous as other friend.
That guy didnt have the same attitude when he got hungry and proceeded to eat the food that hubby and I cooked.
Friends boyfriend paid for one night at the campsite, and hubby and I paid for the next night. That was the only effort any one of them made towards the cost of the trip.
I didn't really hold my friend responsible, because she was left at the campsite with me while her boyfriend supposedly went to fetch the food. I flat told them that when my pickup truck parked at the campsite, it wasn't moving again until it was time to go to the lake, as I had brought everything I needed, and I came camping to camp, not to run the roads.
After we got back from the camping trip, there must have been some guilt, because they took us to a chinese buffet for supper.
I have only seen friend once since then. And every time she would text or message, she would ask when we were coming to see her. I finally told her that she drives right by my house at least TWICE a day, she should stop by and say hello for a few minutes. Her response was "I'm sooooooooo busy.
." So I figured that if she was less than 100 feet from my house every day and couldn't stop, that I didn't need to spend the money on the gas to go to her house over 30 minutes away.
Thanks everyone for your responses. I am slowly developing my EHell patented polite spine of steel.