My DD (9) was invited to spend the night at a friends house. The family recently converted to this church. Since it was a Saturday night sleep over, I asked the mother if they would be attending church on Sunday...she said yes, but Kitten was welcome to come with them or she would drop her off at home on her way. I told her that I would talk to Kitten and let her decide.
I love my DD
. We discussed it and I made sure she understood that she was welcome to go with her friend, but I wanted to prepare her for some of the things they might say or do (like trying to convince her to try and get us all to come, to tell her that theirs was the "one true faith" or even convince her to be baptized.). I tried to give her some kid friendly "bean-dip"...things like, oh, you'll have to talk to my Mom about that or I'm not comfortable talking about that without my mom.
After we discussed it for awhile, Kitten looked at me and said, "You know what Mommy? If they can't respect our feelings than I don't think I want to go to that church. It doesn't make sense to go somewhere where the people try to tell you what to do or think and they don't listen. I'm going to ask Mrs. K to bring me home."
Success! I don't mind my daughter exploring different paths of Faith, but I'm proud of her for already learning that she can say no thanks and recognize when a group is attempting to force their beliefs upon her.
It will be interesting to see how this all plays out when the Pastor's wife learns that Kitten declined to attend church with her friend. (Small town, news travels. *sigh*)