How I miss Passover with my family! I have somehow received much of the seder supplies for the family, but I've married an atheist and haven't found a community with to share the meal since I moved to Ohio. However, my grandfather will turn 90 on the 15th, which will gather the family a week after the holidays. This is where my personal etiquette issues will be at hand.
I have given the cut indirect to my eldest cousin Matt. He knows it, and most of the family knows why. That isn't important, but my main issue is how to handle this in the presence of my dear grandfather, who is the only reason the cut remains indirect. I'm usually very good at staying in different parts of the house from Matt and keeping my conversation cool when forced to interact (instead of lashing out at him like I've wanted to for the last 25 years). The biggest trick will be keeping sober while keeping cool. At my youngest cousin's wedding, when he and I were stuck at the same table for the reception, I swallowed two bourbons in rapid succession (not proud of this).
Wish me luck, an iron spine, a sober mind, and an icy tongue.