I went on vacation for 2 weeks with 3 friends: Touchy, Brunette, and Blondie. We all grew up together, from birth to high school. Feeling nostalgic, we all decided to go on a spring break trip.
The first day, we'd all toured a vineyard owned by Blondie's uncle and had each been given a bottle of wine. After the tour Blondie, Brunette, and myself wanted to go out, but Touchy wanted to go back to the hotel and get a massage. When we went to drop Touchy off at the hotel, we realized the wine would get hot if we drove it around. Brunette asked Touchy to carry it up and chill it for when we got back. Touchy was hesitant and thought that she would get in trouble, and I explained that there were no laws/regulations against it, (I had looked them up earlier) and since we were over 21 it would be fine. She continued saying that she was afraid she'd get "in trouble" and felt "weird" about it, and wouldn't carry it in unless she could hide it in something. We assured her that it would be okay and thanked her when she finally carried it up to the room.
When we came back and got her for dinner, something seemed off. She was slightly terse. It wasn't until we got into the car that she took a deep breath and said "I don't appreciate that you three made me carry the wine into the hotel or or that you made me feel stupid about it. Okay, there, I said it." We literally sat in stunned silence for four minutes. I know because I was staring at the car's clock. Finally Brunette coughed out an "I'm sorry" and so did Blondie, which I added a feeble "Yeah" to in order to keep the peace-after all, it was the first day of the trip. Touchy continued to be terse when we were in the restaurant and wouldn't look anyone in the eye, kept picking at her dinner, etc. Brunette, Blondie, and myself ignored it and chattered away, and eventually Touchy stopped pouting and joined in on the conversation. It never came up again. Well, Brunette and Blondie mentioned later (out of Touchy's earshot) about how bizarre the whole thing was, but then it never came up again.
I need a way to deal with this sort of thing. Don't get me wrong, Touchy and I are good friends-and even if I decided to distance myself from her, I would still see her at almost every social gathering. However, she's very, very "sensitive" but only about her own emotions. Yes, she'll tear up about the kids in Uganda, but she thinks nothing of pulling out the Sensitivity Trump Card and talking up her "feelings" when she's feeling slighted, even if she's being extremely rude to other people in the process or potentially stamping all over their emotions. Mind you, she has gotten somewhat better-when we were in elementary school, she would run off and silently pout, sometimes for an hour at a time. I just feel like there's some sort of polite answer/retort to things like this that would shut her down, but I can't figure out what it is. Bear in mind, it rarely happens but when it does she just goes all "NO ONE RESPECTS MY FEELINGS" on everyone and gets so high up on the cross that she can't hear any reasonable arguments from below.