I stuck my toe back into the world of online dating - what a trip it is! After weeding through a guy who was looking for a sister-wife (!) and a couple who were pretty far outside my stated age-range, I've been talking with a couple of guys.
So I had tentative plans to meet this one guy - let's cal him Jim - last Sunday for breakfast. On Saturday we were talking and the call dropped. I texted back that he could give me a call when he was back in service. A couple hours later he texted me "Come to (his address an hour away) at 630 grilling steaks".
I really thought he'd mixed up a text w/ somebody else. I have no interest in meeting someone for the first time at their house (and he lives in a remote acreage, to boot). So I said "Already have plans! Have fun though. Still meeting tomorrow am? Where?" And I didn't get a response, so I figured he was a flake and enjoyed my Sun AM at home...He texts around noon saying he thought he would have heard from me by now. His impression from the text exchange was that I was going to call HIM. At any rate, we end up chalking it up to a miscommunication and decide to try for the following Saturday (tomorrow) - but nothing concrete.
Last night we talked briefly (none of our conversations have been longer than 5 mins) and he again wanted me to come out to his place. He was incredulous that I'd only want to meet in public for a first date. I asked him if he's often met up with people at his/their home & he relayed that yes, one girl came over for the whole weekend, but was essentially a gold digger and another he met at HER house, but it became apparent she wanted to "take care of him" for a "donation". So I was like - "Yeah, that's why it's always been my rule to meet in public!". Geez.
He's also been really pushy asking for more pics (I have both an accurate/recent face and full-length body shot on my profile, so I've been resistant). These things in combination made me realize, after the call, that I don't really want to meet him.
He wants me to just call him after my Saturday morning event is done & we'll get together. Would I be in the wrong to just cancel at this point? I'm feeling increasingly uncomfortable with the level of familiarity he's taken on when we haven't had enough conversation to base that off of (coming to his house & inviting me on his spring break trip?!?). And the begging for pics is a real turn-off. Is it worse etiquette to break a date, or go along despite a pretty sure feeling this isn't a good match?