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Little Pushy With My SIL and Easter Dinner

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gingerzing:
Thankfully she was cool with it. 
DH tells me that we are going over to go to church with SIL and her kids.  (Not a big deal, this was a possiblity and it is part of the church we go to and we know the pastor.)  And after church we will do lunch over at SIL's.  And that is all the info I am given.  SIGH.

So I called SIL last night and while I know that she doesn't do weekly menu planning, I figured it would be good if we both knew what was going on for Sunday.  She hadn't really thought about it but thankfully we chatted.  She had a certain set of sides -some I hadn't thought of.  Plus I found out that MIL will be going to her church, but come over for lunch.   So MIL will make at least one side dish, SIL doing the ham and rolls and a dessert.  And I will bring 3 sides and deviled eggs.  Whew. 

Making SIL talk to MIL on what to bring.  MIL tends to either ignore or misunderstand what DH or I have told her.  For some reason SIL can get the point across.  So SIL will let MIL want is needed.

Bibliophile:
Yeah, I don't see anything pushy or anything - just a story about how you called your SIL to coordinate Easter dinner, which seems very normal & drama free to me.

Moray:
Is there some back story I'm not aware of? It sounds like you and your SIL had a productive conversation regarding your own contributions to the dinner.

Are you trying to say you need to be pushy with your SIL so she'll coordinate with MIL?

Jones:
The way I read it:
This is a pleasant, drama-free call, so I can see why people would think it wasn't pushy, but I feel for the OP if she has to be the one making other people think about their hosting plans so everyone doesn't show up on Sunday and have no food, so they order pizza. I'm glad SIL was reasonable and didn't scream offense at this "slight". I feel pushy when I have to call people I normally wouldn't, to talk over and determine issues that they claim to have "not even thought about yet."

Kudos!

stargazer:
I think OP is the one who was pushy and she was saying thankfully her SIL was okay with it.  And I agree, the phone call did come off as pushy.  Is there a reason you didn't trust your SIL to have dinner ready without you calling?

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