Alright - I can see I'm in the minority on the cake thing. Even with my family, when it is just us, we still use a fork. We might be a bit strange. I'm okay with that.
If I ever have cake with you guys, remind me that it is cake and, in the end, it won't really matter because...cake.
As for what I said about the dad - I don't really see it as judgmental but maybe bringing my own baggage without declaring. My parents divorced when I was four and one of my mom's friends stepped up to the plate to help her a lot. Mostly because my dad was dealing with a lot of alcohol abuse and he had to get his ducks in a row first. After my dad cleaned up, he was allowed, at first, to see me at family functions until mom trusted him more for solo visits. I was that shy little girl who hid behind my adoptive aunt (and real aunt too!) because I didn't recognize my dad as this calm and collected person. What my mom's friend did was better than the LW did was she would help my dad reintroduce himself to me so I would come out of my shy shell. I could see her getting protective if my dad ever got aggressive in little ways that just wouldn't sit right. So I can see why I went to the conclusion I did while others went to a completely different conclusion.
I still stick to both not coming out clean but I can see why others think the LW should have dropped it. I didn't really see it at first and I love this site for getting so many different opinions so I can understand/see the other side of the coin.