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Hanging up on a cut direct

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Apologies in advance if this has already been discussed, but it came up today.

My Mom's Sister has, for as long as I have known her, repeatedly made very hurtful, disrespectful, and even racist comments (directed toward my nephew, no less).

Six years ago, I decided that I was done dealing with her.  I blocked her phone number on my cell phone, set up my email account to label her emails as spam, and blocked her on FB.

Long story short, Mom's Sister called me today (from her new cell phone).  As soon as I realized it was her, I hung up the phone and added the cell phone number to my blocked callers list.

What I wonder is: was silently hanging up the phone something that's going to cast me into EHell?

ETA - The whole conversation:

*Phone rings, I don't recognize the number*
Me: "Hello?"
Mom's Sister: "Hi, [my name]?  I got a new cell phone, and I wanted to make sure I had the right number for you."
Me: "Who's calling?"
Mom's Sister: "It's your aunt, [her name]."
*At this point, I hung up the phone*

Mental Magpie:
Honestly, no, I don't think you were rude.  You would think she would have realized by now that you never answered/returned her calls in the past, so why would a new number change that.  I also think had you said anything she would have taken that as a sign that it was okay to call you and/or to keep talking.  I think you did the best you could.

I really don't think you were rude. Sometimes hanging up is necessary. This was one of those times.

The Cut Direct is put in a category of "Normally Rude, but Necessary to Prevent Something Worse". It is certainly no worse than refusing to acknowledge someone in person. If she's bad enough to need to be blocked, hanging up is all you can do - otherwise, you teach her that if she works hard enough to get through to you, you can't get rid of her.

Outdoor Girl:
IMO, you handled the situation perfectly.  If this person's previous actions were so egregious that you've cut them completely out of your life, you don't owe them courtesy.  And you have also sent a very clear message that you have no wish to speak to them ever again.


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