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wolfie

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Re: Hanging up on a cut direct
« Reply #15 on: April 14, 2012, 10:06:48 PM »

It doesn't matter what the aunt thinks. The cut direct IS rude - that is why it is only reserved for extreme situations.


Responding 'like for like' seldom brings the consequences we want.  That brief pleasurable moment from 'putting someone in their place' fades quickly, leaving little of actual value in its place.

Since the consequence MrTango wants is to have his Aunt out of his life I would say that he got what he wanted. And I think he sees a lot of value in that (and based on what he posted so do I).

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Re: Hanging up on a cut direct
« Reply #16 on: April 16, 2012, 08:58:22 AM »

It doesn't matter what the aunt thinks. The cut direct IS rude - that is why it is only reserved for extreme situations.


Responding 'like for like' seldom brings the consequences we want.  That brief pleasurable moment from 'putting someone in their place' fades quickly, leaving little of actual value in its place.

If the consequences are "achieving peace by not having a toxic person in one's life," this would appear to be of great value.

The Cut Direct is a necessary part of etiquette. There are (fortunately, rare) people whose behaviour is so horrible that one cannot carry on a civilized relationship with them. The Cut Direct allows people to simply act as if the egregious person is not there. This avoids the drama of having to interact with them, and makes life quieter and easier for everyone.
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