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whatsanenigma:
Well, if that wasn't the right phrase to use, what should she have said instead?  It was a topic that, appropriate for a health care person to bring up or not, the OP did not want to further discuss and this was non-negotiable.

I think that the OP handled this very well.  She just casually said something and it worked, without her being rude or snippy or anything like that.  She made her point in a clear, concise way that was not rude.

And I thought that was the point of these little sayings.  A way to handle the situation quickly without being rude.

There are other ways that this particular phrase can be used, and other phrases the OP could have used instead, of course.  But the point for me is that the OP used the phrase in a way that worked really well for the situation.  Accomplished the goal with a minimum of fuss.

DavidH:
The phrase worked, but I strongly suspect for the wrong reason.

It sounds from the description of the nurse's reaction that either she did not take it as a genuine question or she remarkably ignorant.  A nurse calling to counsel someone about diabetes would be remiss if the subject of weight did not come up, particularly if the person is overweight and should be able to list a number of reasons why having a goal of weight loss is a good idea.

If you ask the question you should be prepared for an answer and in the interest of being polite, should listen with interest to that answer since you did, after all ask the question.

A far better response here would have been "No" since that does not invite an unwanted conversation. 

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--- Quote from: DavidH on May 02, 2012, 08:12:46 PM ---The phrase worked, but I strongly suspect for the wrong reason.

It sounds from the description of the nurse's reaction that either she did not take it as a genuine question or she remarkably ignorant.  A nurse calling to counsel someone about diabetes would be remiss if the subject of weight did not come up, particularly if the person is overweight and should be able to list a number of reasons why having a goal of weight loss is a good idea.

If you ask the question you should be prepared for an answer and in the interest of being polite, should listen with interest to that answer since you did, after all ask the question.

A far better response here would have been "No" since that does not invite an unwanted conversation.

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That's exactly what I was trying to say, only with better framing.

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