Etiquette School is in session! > "Why would I want to do that?"


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My last employer had something like that.

About the 5th time they tried calling me, I finally told the nurse "My healthcare choices are between me and my physician.  Please do not call me again."

Very true.  Others may find it helpful.  Maybe it was her.  I already had my diabetes under control  and felt I didnt need to be checked upon.   I dint need a stranger to push me to do something that is my decision.  I didn't feel the need to provide reports bc It made me feel like if I didnt meet the goal she suggested that I had failed. 


--- Quote from: lady_disdain on April 18, 2012, 01:39:22 PM ---I am glad it worked! However, in this case, it might have backfired on you, since it could have been an opening for "the evils of weight on your health" lecture.

Sparksals, I am sorry you felt so badly about this kind of ongoing followup. For a lot of people, it is very helpful and it can be a good kind of accounting for goals.

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I agree, the phrase could have easily backfired, because in this particular case, the nurse could have very easily given you 10 good reasons why you would want to lose weight, especially with diabetes.

I am glad to hear your diabetes is under control.


--- Quote from: Knitterly on April 18, 2012, 01:04:18 PM ---I think weight loss is a subject that your doctor and nurse have the right to bring up if they feel it's warranted.  A nurse making such a suggestion isn't the same thing as a friend or acquaintance making such a suggestion.

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I think there's a difference between that and what the nurse said, though.  I've had my doctor gently mention weight before, in the sense of (in my case), "You're measuring a bit underweight these days, it's something that can affect your health" and then suggestions for how to deal with it once I said I was open to the discussion.

Whereas the phrasing the nurse in the OP used...I don't know, it doesn't seem to actually say "You might want to lose weight for health reasons because of XYZ."  Rather, to me it reads like an assumption that everyone always wants to lose weight.  Maybe that's not how she meant it, but the phrasing would have caught me off guard.

Midnight Kitty:
I think it depends whether LadyJane is overweight enough to be a health concern combined with her diabetes.  I am small framed and have always been under the ideal weight.  When I was around 125 pounds, I joked with my doctor, "It's not like I'm overweight."  He looked me up and down and said, "You are about 10 pounds more than you should be for your frame."  I was surprised, but I took his advice and lost 10 pounds.  I felt much better ... until I gained it back.

I swear I'm going to get rid of it for good.  It just gets harder as I get older. I am reaping what I sowed in all those comments to myself when looking at obese people (they just need to do some "push aways").

Anyway, only LadyJane knows for sure whether it was a helpful suggestion (clearly not) or an "interesting comment."


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