I was set up on a blind date by a friend, who had a friend who knew this great guy. So, we went out last night and it seemed like a great set up, I was really surprised with how well we got on. Until he announced he was really sorry but he was tired and had to go home! I really have no idea if he was telling the truth or just trying to get an excuse to leave but I've never heard of a guy saying that before, especially 9pm on a friday night?! Should I just forget about it and write him off or see if he calls in a few days?
My friend had passed on my number etc to him a couple of weeks ago and he'd texted asking if I wanted to meet for a drink sometime. We'd arranged to meet last week but he'd texted me at lunchtime on the day saying he had a bad cold and could we postpone, so we'd rearranged for last night. In the meantime we'd sent a few texts but nothing too much. I don't like getting into that if you don't know if you even click in person.
So, he suggested 7pm, and was already there when I walked in. He seemed pleased with what he saw (looked me up and down and smiled), kissed me on the cheek and offered to get me a drink. I was driving so I asked for lemonade and he had a coffee for himself already.
So, we chatted for nearly two hours and I was feeling like there would definitely be a second date. We had a lot in common, we laughed a lot, he seemed really nice and not a weirdo (!) and there were no awkward silences. I couldn't believe how well it was actually going seeing as it was a blind date. But then just before 9pm he said he was really sorry but he was tired, he'd been up since 5am and really needed to go. I was a bit thrown because it seemed to be going really well, and it was before 9pm on a friday night!
I wasn't sure if he really was that tired or just wanted an excuse so I tried to be cool and just said 'ok, sure, wow, 5am?' and started to gather my bag and coat while he said something about work being crazy, and as I was nearest the door I led the way outside. Once we were on the street he leaned in and kissed me on the cheek and asked where my car was, so I pointed down the street and he said 'ok, sorry I'm so tired, have a nice weekend' and headed to his car. I told him to drive safely and he waved.
I could understand if he was really tired after a long week or something but there was none of the usual 'great to meet you' / 'I'll call you' / 'we should do this again sometime'. Even to be polite if he didn't mean it. Maybe I could have said something to show I'd had more of a good time but I was feeling like he was trying to leave so I didn't want to look keen if I'd got it completely wrong. Argh!
I've been on good dates and bad dates but this seemed to be both in one! Started well and ended with me thinking he was running away.
Do guys really end a date because they're tired? I can't help think if it was true but he was still keen to see me he would have tried to set something else up? If we'd gone for dinner or had a longer evening etc I'd probably text to say thanks and that I had a good time, but I feel doubtful about doing that because of the way it ended.