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Can I lie to boss about being PG?
turnip:
I'm going to agree with those who say you should probably just answer truthfully if he asks - and he probably won't ask. This is someone you need to keep a good working relationship with, and whose opinion of you matters, and I think any sort of lying, faux-outrage or faux-embarassment is just going to make you look foolish when you go to him weeks later and say yes, in fact, you were pregnant all along.
And congratulations!
QueenfaninCA:
--- Quote from: kudeebee on April 25, 2012, 10:29:35 PM ---Tell him that yes you are, but you are not telling anyone until you get past the 12 week mark and that you know he will honor your wish that noone else knows right now.
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This. I told my boss before I told my parents. I wanted him to be aware that I will be out for a couple of months a few months down the road so that he could plan for it. I told him to please not share with anyone yet as we hadn't even told family and he honored that. I had to tell a few colleagues before the 12 week mark because my morning sickness made it impossible for me to be at work before 10am (thank deity for flextime) so wouldn't be able to make some meetings.
GlassHalfFull:
I'm a little surprised by the fact that some posters think that a boss (or anyone for that matter) asking such a personal, medical question compels a person to answer truthfully. It's really none of their business at this point, just as issues such as that time of the month, prostrate concerns, or really anything medical and/or personal would also be none of their business. It only becomes their business when it will have an effect on business (in this case extra doctor appointments during work hours, maternity leave, etc.)
I still think a friendly side-step is the way to go, and whether the boss sees through it or not, if he has any sort of good personal rapport with you (and people in general for that matter) he'll understand once you're ready to divulge your true status with no hard feelings. And if this guy has any female friends who find out he asked such a thing (if he does ask) he'll probably get an earful from them and never do it again!
turnip:
--- Quote from: GlassHalfFull on May 04, 2012, 06:04:49 PM ---I'm a little surprised by the fact that some posters think that a boss (or anyone for that matter) asking such a personal, medical question compels a person to answer truthfully.
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If the OP thinks she can get by with a smile and "That's a personal question", then I encourage her to try it. If he's a persistent question asker though, I'd rather just answer truthfully than lie or try to make him feel foolish. ( Perhaps he should feel foolish, but again this is her boss and not some random guy. )
And, you know, these things get out despite our best intentions. I saw a friend recently with her hand protectively on her stomach, commenting to someone else about stretched muscles and heart beats, and I said "CRUD MONKEYS!, are you pregnant?!" Well she was - but they hadn't told anyone yet - the discussion I walked in on was about a new set of ab exercises she was trying!
Oops.
GlassHalfFull:
--- Quote from: turnip on May 04, 2012, 06:29:01 PM ---I'd rather just answer truthfully than lie or try to make him feel foolish. ( Perhaps he should feel foolish, but again this is her boss and not some random guy. )
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Whereas I'd rather side-step, if I weren't ready to tell, than lie or try to make him feel foolish. To each his own! Funny story about the abs. :)
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