Something happened this afternoon and I want to know whether you think my boyfriend was rude or not. I guess I'm also looking for some reassurance that I wasn't overreacting.
My boyfriend (let's call him Ryan) and I had plans to meet after my shift at work. We were going to see a movie and have dinner. I was collecting my belongings after clocking out when I noticed a few text messages on my phone. I did not have a chance to read them as the phone started receiving a call from Ryan. After I greeted him, he sheepishly asked if I had read his texts. As you know, I hadn't.
As it turns out, he was not waiting for me outside my work yet. He wasn't even in the suburb. He was about forty minutes away at a park with his friends. He told me I was welcome to join them for the night with whatever they did, or if I really wanted, he would just drive over and meet me so we could do the dinner and movie as planned.
This annoyed me for a few reasons:
1. I thought it was illogical that he would continue hanging out with his friends despite receiving no text confirmation from me earlier that I'd be fine to cancel our plans and join them instead.
2. I didn't really want to twiddle my thumbs for forty minutes plus waiting for him to arrive.
3. Even if I did say, no, I want you to come so we can have our date night, I'd probably end up looking like a controlling girlfriend, or at least feeling like one.
I told Ryan I was going to go home, have a shower and think about it. I think I was coolly polite. In the end I decided to just stay home and get some uni work done.
Would you call Ryan inconsiderate, if not rude?