General Etiquette > Family and Children
Do I offer $$ compensation for a huge favor from my Aunt/Uncle?
ShanghaiJill:
Offer it to them, so they may have the privilege of deciding to take it or not. If they are as gracious as you say they are, they probably would tell you to keep it.
TootsNYC:
If I were generous, I'd find it uncomfortable to be offered the money.
I vote for finding ways to simply cover the costs.
partly because then you don't have to get into the idea of how MUCH you are going to give them. Given that some of that money should be reimbursing you for the cost-covering you've already done, and for your transportation.
Of course, then you have to get into which costs you will cover, but that can be smoothed over by saying, "I've got that stipend that the government want me to use to cover these costs--your tax dollars at work! It isn't even really my money. It's supposed to make it easier on both of us--you, so it doesn't impact your finances so badly, and me so that I don't feel uncomfortable about imposing."
Betelnut:
--- Quote from: BeagleMommy on April 26, 2012, 11:33:26 AM ---OP, you've gotten great advice her so I won't offer any more. I just wanted to wish you well with your treatment.
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Thanks! Just spent almost three days in the hospital for a suspected infection. This cancer thing is going to be harder than I thought. :o
alegria:
--- Quote from: TootsNYC on April 27, 2012, 08:24:53 AM ---Of course, then you have to get into which costs you will cover, but that can be smoothed over by saying, "I've got that stipend that the government want me to use to cover these costs--your tax dollars at work! It isn't even really my money. It's supposed to make it easier on both of us--you, so it doesn't impact your finances so badly, and me so that I don't feel uncomfortable about imposing."
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This is really nice wording. :)
Another idea is to perhaps purchase a few items "for your comfort" that you then leave behind for them to use, since you don't need it at home? Like if you're staying in the guest room, maybe a nightstand and lamp, or a new set of sheets/towels, or a comfy blanket. Nothing extravagant, and obviously something that would go along with their tastes so they would continue to use the item. I think that along with paying for some of the groceries while you stay would be a nice way to thank them and give them the benefit of the money without being awkward about it.
Moray:
--- Quote from: alegria on May 01, 2012, 10:17:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: TootsNYC on April 27, 2012, 08:24:53 AM ---Of course, then you have to get into which costs you will cover, but that can be smoothed over by saying, "I've got that stipend that the government want me to use to cover these costs--your tax dollars at work! It isn't even really my money. It's supposed to make it easier on both of us--you, so it doesn't impact your finances so badly, and me so that I don't feel uncomfortable about imposing."
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This is really nice wording. :)
Another idea is to perhaps purchase a few items "for your comfort" that you then leave behind for them to use, since you don't need it at home? Like if you're staying in the guest room, maybe a nightstand and lamp, or a new set of sheets/towels, or a comfy blanket. Nothing extravagant, and obviously something that would go along with their tastes so they would continue to use the item. I think that along with paying for some of the groceries while you stay would be a nice way to thank them and give them the benefit of the money without being awkward about it.
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POD.
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