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Odd Encounter with Equally Odd Neighbor--Suggestions or Advice?

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helixa:
There's not really any reason why you need to even say anything to another person in the apartment complex. Given the circumstances you are being prudent in not giving him any attention.
I would mention to your super that he made you feel uncomfortable and has started becoming aggressive - how your super reacts tells you a lot. If he takes Jay's side then you might want to rethink staying in the apartment anyway. If he reacts as he should do and is supportive, you can be confident in how you deal with Jay knowing you don't have to worry about any other consequences.

Physical safety is more important than being nice.

Teenyweeny:
It would be a shame if you had to leave what sounds like a great living situation because of one creepy guy.

However, he is setting MY creep-o-meter off, and I'm probably thousands of miles away from the jerk.

Firstly : be vigilant. And don't think that dressing frumpily is a safeguard. Creeps aren't creeps because of how a woman dresses. They're creeps because they enjoy power and intimidation.

Try not to be anywhere that Jay is. Pick 'busy' times to do your laundry, if you can. If you have a neighbour who might be amenable to this, ask if they can be your laundry buddy.

Don't do things like glancing through your mail whilst you are in the hallway. Plenty of time for that when you are in your apartment, behind a locked door. The hallway should be a place that you power on through, looking purposeful. And don't feel that you have to acknowledge Jay. If you do see him, a nod in his direction is enough.  Don't stop walking, say 'hi' and keep going.

Report the 'stairway' incident to your building super. Tell him exactly what you wrote here, and say that it's made you feel unsafe around the guy. If Jay is a tenant, then his angry and intimidating behaviour could add up to grounds for eviction, if it is all documented, so make sure that it is.

Bah. Jerks like this bring out my angry side.

Redsoil:
I'd be reporting this incident (and the actions leading up to it) in a factual way to the super, trying to avoid being overly "emotional" but simply saying you've been made to feel quite uncomfortable by this person's actions and attitude.  State your concern and mention you will be documenting any further incidents should the super wish a copy. 

You never know how many other women he may have tried to intimidate - what if he were to escalate things with you or another woman?  You could prevent problems for yourself an others by being proactive.

Kari:
Keep being your usual polite self to your other neighbors, because it seems that the only one who has a problem is the creep who is sulking that you don't find him hot stuff. Don't engage his nastiness, just document and send any aggressive behavior to the super's attention. (And if it does begin to escalate, do NOT be alone in the laundry room. Sweatpants will not deter an aggressive creep scorned.)

But if you feel like there's no threat of aggression, and that the guy just needs to be put in his place, simply make sure that you reply to any of his greetings with "And how's your lovely wife today?"

Bijou:
I would want to limit any contact with him to zero.  He would make me that uncomfortable.

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