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Neighbor parking question (long) UPDATE pg. 2
PennyandPleased:
First - you should have called the police during the rental car parking issue. He sounds dangerous. All you need to say is: "I am afraid this man will get physical when my friend gets back to move her car".
I think it is totally okay to say to put on the invitation or tell guests over the phone: Due to issues with our MORON neighbor please do NOT park in front of 15 Main Street (Blue house with green door). Parking can be found one street over on Happy Street or call us when you arrive and we will help you park. We also encourage you to car pool.
Okay you don't have to put MORON in - but I think it's okay if you do. >:D
ETA - I don't think your neighbor actually deserves this courtesy but his potential freak out could ruin your party, upset guests, or could lead to damage of cars.
artk2002:
--- Quote from: Lexophile on May 02, 2012, 01:14:14 PM ---Sadly, calling the police doesn't do much but document the incidents in case he ever snaps. Your neighbor sounds like he might have mental problems and it's sad that the rest ofhis family has to suffer too.
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Minor correction: In your neighborhood calling the police won't do much good. It would be very sad for OP to skip a potential resource based on your experience. There are thousands of police departments in the US alone and thousands of approaches to policing. Some may not take issues like this seriously, but others may. The only guarantee is that if OP doesn't talk to the police, then the police will certainly do nothing.
WillyNilly:
--- Quote from: artk2002 on May 02, 2012, 04:11:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: Lexophile on May 02, 2012, 01:14:14 PM ---Sadly, calling the police doesn't do much but document the incidents in case he ever snaps. Your neighbor sounds like he might have mental problems and it's sad that the rest ofhis family has to suffer too.
--- End quote ---
Minor correction: In your neighborhood calling the police won't do much good. It would be very sad for OP to skip a potential resource based on your experience. There are thousands of police departments in the US alone and thousands of approaches to policing. Some may not take issues like this seriously, but others may. The only guarantee is that if OP doesn't talk to the police, then the police will certainly do nothing.
--- End quote ---
Seriously.
Yelling and carrying on, even in NYC will get police attention. And while no the police won't come out for items blocking the street (saving the parking spot), Dept of Sanitation will, and will fine the house the items are in the street in front of... and will take the items away. (There is a house in my 'hood that has taken to chaining the orange cone it blocks it's spot with to a tree, so they don't loose the cone even if they get a ticket.)
Otterpop:
I would call the police next time. Getting the authorities involved might "curb" his behavior (pun intended).
We have a neighbor above us with a nice view of the city. We yearly trimmed down the bushes on our hillside so as not to block this for them. One year, we didn't have the money for a gardener and so, put off it off for a month. They complained and I explained it would be done later that summer.
That month we had redwood chips and dog *poop* thrown in our pool numerous times. Since they were the only ones above us with redwood mulch and a dog (besides our own - I'm sure Gidget wasn't squatting over the side of the pool), I called them, no response, then climbed our hill to talk to them. The husband saw me and flew inside. The wife plastered on a fake smile and claimed ignorance. I didn't accuse, just asked who might have done it. Then I said I wouldn't be trimming my hillside any more because it gave the perpetrator a nice view of my pool.
Our hillside is wild and woolly to this day. No complaints from them as they know they shot themselves in the foot.
Surveillance is also nice. If you can point a discreet camera at his curb, do it. It would be proof to the cops or in court if it goes that far.
Lexophile:
--- Quote from: WillyNilly on May 02, 2012, 04:52:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: artk2002 on May 02, 2012, 04:11:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: Lexophile on May 02, 2012, 01:14:14 PM ---Sadly, calling the police doesn't do much but document the incidents in case he ever snaps. Your neighbor sounds like he might have mental problems and it's sad that the rest ofhis family has to suffer too.
--- End quote ---
Minor correction: In your neighborhood calling the police won't do much good. It would be very sad for OP to skip a potential resource based on your experience. There are thousands of police departments in the US alone and thousands of approaches to policing. Some may not take issues like this seriously, but others may. The only guarantee is that if OP doesn't talk to the police, then the police will certainly do nothing.
--- End quote ---
Seriously.
Yelling and carrying on, even in NYC will get police attention. And while no the police won't come out for items blocking the street (saving the parking spot), Dept of Sanitation will, and will fine the house the items are in the street in front of... and will take the items away. (There is a house in my 'hood that has taken to chaining the orange cone it blocks it's spot with to a tree, so they don't loose the cone even if they get a ticket.)
--- End quote ---
I think we are getting close to the types of legal discussions that get threads closed here. I only mentioned it because that was the case in my neighborhood. I never said anywhere that calling the police would get the OP nowhere. I was talking about my own experience.
My neighbor made a habit of verbally assaulting my husband and me separately and when nobody else was looking, so we had no witnesses. When we called the police (several times), he flipped his attitude to make himself look like the victim. It was a case of he-said, she-said, and with no witnesses to corroborate our story, the police did nothing.
In the case where he threw the rock, there was a witness (she saw it happen from a window in her own house across the street), but she was too chicken to tell the police the truth and actually corroborated his side of the story because she was afraid he was dangerous and might target her or her kids.
I'm not advising the OP to not call the police. I'm saying to be prepared to have some hard evidence of wrongdoing if she does because that's the only time the police can do anything about it.
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