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pierrotlunaire0:
POD to DearAbby.  Or you could start referrring to him as "like a brother to me." 

Honeypickle:
Wolfwench, I would suggest pulling back from this friendship. Once one person in a "friendship" has articulated that they want more from it, then that friendship is effectively over. It is no longer an equal relationship and maintaining a close friendship in the knowledge that one person has unrequited feelings, really isn't fair on either of you.

Off topic - do you ever hear from Sally? I was so interested in that thread!

QueenofAllThings:
Well, you asked for it. You posted on FBook, and he did what he was told.

Put it out of your mind, and never refer to it again.

Reason:
étiquette-wise you were fine. But relationship wise, I think pulling back from the friendship is kinder to the guy.

Obviously I don't know the guy, but I have known a couple of men in very similar situations. He's clearly attracted to you and still sees the friendship as a possibility to move to something more. There is no such possibility but chances are he will never understand that. So having this beautiful girl who's his friend is actually likely to keep him from exploring other options, while he faithfully sits and waits for you to notice what a great guy he actually is and suddenly realize you were in love with him all along. Or perhaps he thinks that he can swoop in after a particularly nasty break up and morally support and rescue you.

Cutting off contact, while it sounds harsh, is probably better in the end.

P.S. I am not saying men can't be friends with women, just men who blurt out "I love you" on a dime without considering boundaries can't be friends with women they are attracted to.

Yvaine:

--- Quote from: QueenofAllThings on May 03, 2012, 09:58:32 AM ---Well, you asked for it. You posted on FBook, and he did what he was told.

--- End quote ---

I think this is a little overly harsh. It's a meme that was going around, and it's a joke. Obviously he took it as an opening, but I'd say ten people on my own friends list posted it too. It's sort of a spoof on all those glurgey statuses that go around.

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