My parents have always been of the opinion that a parent can't be rude to their children. As in nothing they could say or do to the child could be rude simply by virtue of their having birthed and raised the child.
Something about the quote tree went terribly wrong here, but I'm not sure how, and I'm just going to live with it!
That, in and of itself, without any of our additional examples to the contrary, pretty much proves how extremely wrong they are, doesn't it!? I think it's a vestige of the old patriarchal type of parenting, where they're right solely by virtue of age and generation. Mom tried very hard to pull that off, but failed miserably. Either I was a Bad Girl by virtue of my mouthiness (her opinion, repeatedly), or I was a Good Girl Surviving Pluckily in spite of her parenting (neighbors opinions), but either way, I knew she was nuts a great portion of the time. It's truly sad that one of my main motivating goals in parenting was to do things Not Her Way, and to have a better relationship with my children when they were 18, than she had with me when I was....
Please forgive any egregious typos, it's been a week, and I had a gigantic G&T when I got home, and it's come home to roost!