Update 55,94,96,119-122 - No, I don't want to e-mail chat with you

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[weeblewobble]

She will never give up until she returns you to the status quo.  She has seen that you're annoyed, so she has taken to subliminal messaging you.

That last email message followed this pattern:

"Light fluffy non-threatening personal info.Light fluffy non-threatening personal info.Light fluffy non-threatening personal info. Light fluffy non-threatening personal info.Light fluffy non-threatening personal info. Light fluffy non-threatening personal info.  DO WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO SO I FEEL LIKE I HAVE SOME POWER IN THIS FRIENDSHIP! Light fluffy non-threatening personal info. Light fluffy non-threatening personal info. Light fluffy non-threatening personal info. Light fluffy non-threatening personal info."


She has told you over and over that she knows what you want, but she just doesn't care.  "Oh, sure, she knows you don't want to be bothered at work, but seriously, call her sometimes, because she's bored.  And it's up to you to make sure she's happy.  So seriously, call her.  Even though you said you didn't want to." 

I know you said that was the last straw.  But please, please, for the sake of your sanity, burn all of the straws.

[PastryGoddess]

I'll provide the gasoline if you'd like

[Tilt Fairy]

Out of all the threads I've read in the history of ehell, I feel sorriest for you the most OP. I read your updates about what she emails you and I burst out laughing, not because it's funny for you but because of the absolute absurdity and cluelessness and tragicness of your friend. And also because most of the threads on ehell, you can get rid of the problem person someway or another (and we always find a way), but getting through to your friend seems about as likely as finding a needle in a haystack. She just DOESNT GET IT. She literally DOESN'T UNDERSTAND. I give you major major props for not having put your head through a wall. Or hers.

I'd quit my job just to be rid of this person. But then she'd probably track you down at home.

[greencat]

1) Have a short chat with your new boss bringing him/her up to speed with what has previously been done.  Let your boss know that you're trying to handle it, but that you may need some back-up and that you plan to copy him/her on a few e-mails that you're going to be sending to Miss Communication.  Give your HR rep and Danielle's boss the same heads-up about your plan.

2) Send Miss Communication a response from your work e-mail that says "I feel that it is inappropriate to use work e-mail and work-time to have personal chats.  Please stop trying to engage me in personal conversations during my work day and using company equipment."  Copy your boss, Danielle's boss, and HR.  CC, not BCC - you want Danielle to see that you've copied the higher-ups.

3) Hope that she gets the point?

[Roe]

Just continue with what you are doing.  Respond to her work emails when it actually pertains to work and ignore the rest. 

If you choose to, respond to personal emails on FB during your off hours.  If I were you, I'd ignore those too but you certainly don't have to, esp if you want to keep things cordial. 

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Just continue with what you are doing.  Respond to her work emails when it actually pertains to work and ignore the rest. 

If you choose to, respond to personal emails on FB during your off hours.  If I were you, I'd ignore those too but you certainly don't have to, esp if you want to keep things cordial.

Just the fact that I just did try to respond to her personal e-mail via facebook to show her hey you can chat with me on here, and then the way she responded... yeah I'm not going to do that ever again.  I'll even take it a step further and ignore any personal messages she may send me on facebook that she initiates.  I doubt she will cause she doesn't seem to be on there a lot.  She just wants me to "entertain" her during the week at work...   

We'll see what happens but for now I will not be reporting her.

@Tilt Fairy   It makes me laugh and cry all at the same time!      I was so hoping we'd be transferred to separate projects once our previous one ended but life just likes to torture me I suppose.  With the job market and all plus the fact that DH and I are hoping to move out of the country in hopefully less than a year makes changing jobs not the best option.  I had interviewed and been offered another job but the pay and benefits were pretty much nil so I turned it down.

Also, I do not consider her a friend any longer.  Actually I never really did, more of an acquaintance.  But now not even that.  Strictly business only!

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