I think the bride is over stepping. They are your photos. If you feel the need to compromise, I'd delete only the pics of the happy couple and keep the candids of yourself and friends. Something tells me she's really only concerned about how SHE looks, so remove her pics and leave the rest.
On a related note, it does personally drive me crazy when people upload entire albums with 100 or more pics to FB. With the advent of digital images this happens more and more, and I really wish people would just select some and make smaller albums. I truly don't wish to sort through 100 pics, especially when most are redundant. I won't look at any pictures when I see the # in the album and it's that high.
Your friend might think that the sheer quantity of photos implies some higher level of importance with regards to her wedding, and she prefers to be the main holder of pictures via the professional photographers. A few snaps as a guest is one thing, but presenting over 100 pics, that kind of volume is usually reserved for family, the bridal party, etc. In other words, you're stealing her thunder. I don't necessarily agree. I've seen some brides recently ask for everyone to post all their wedding pictures, so some people have no issue with multitudes of photos. But your friend seems to have a control issue, so I'd cut back if you want to stay on good terms.